I need some answers can someone help me?

[DevastatedColleen]

Can anyone shed some light my situation..............please.
My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me last night with giving me a reason why. He just said that he's not happy but there were no signs leading up to this. We were the perfect couple. He text me all day and all night even while he was at work. At night we would talk unitl early in the morning every night. I go to his house every weekend (he lives 2 hours away and doesnt have a car) and we would have the best time. We even made plans about me moving up there to go to nursing school and even started looking at apartments. Everything was fine until yesterday when I was getting ready to go home he dropped this bomb on me. He said "I dont know if this is working out. I dont want to be with you. I'm not happy anymore." Just out of the blue!! No signs leading up to this. We used to say how we were the best couple out of all our friends!!

Has anyone been in this situation?? I have never had so much pain and confusion like this before. I cant even think straight and need someone to shine a light on this so I can understand. He is not taking my calls or answering my emails and texts.

If anyone can help please do.
Thank you.

[msniki412]

Your better off without him. I had a simlier situation too before I met my current boyfriend. I was going with this guy for about 4 months and one night I was online and I saw that he came online too. So I instant messaged him saying "hey whats up, haven't talked to you in a few days." And that's when he just started saying the most hurtful of things to me. He told me he never wanted to see me ever again and that he said I was ugly and all this other stuff. Well, it did hurt me....but I did move on, to better things (and meeting better people, like my loving boyfriend of 2 years now). My advice to you is, just move on without him. A guy who trys to get rid of you so fast without giving a good reason is not worth trying to get back with. And you only spent 6 months with him...imgine how you would feel if you spent years with him? Better off without him.

Good luck!! : )

[amanda__nichole]

im sorry. the first thing that came to mind is there is someone else. i hate to say it. but like everyone said, you have to move on! He will realize what he let go of and if he doesn't, well then too bad. you are still young, you have your whole life ahead of you. don't let this one get you down!!!!!

[RockRose]

Colleen,  you lived 19 1/2 years without him,  and only 6 months with him.

You just go on.  This isn't the end of the world,  at all.

This is a short term boyfriend that didn't work out.  You just go on.

If you really think about this situation,  he wasn't an honest guy and you've seen other signs that he wasn't being honest - that he fakes it with other people in social situations.  

He was faking it with you.

Go on,  apply for nursing school,  focus on yourself,   and find a guy who doesn't fake his life.

[treazzure007]

i can appreciate his honesty.  doesn't matter what reason it isn't working out.  at least you're not being stringed along or sitting around w/ a smile in la-la land, right?

[iam1butterfly]

Keep your options open. There are a lot of great guys out there... and, you just need to find one of them!

[DevastatedColleen]

Thankyou for all your input,
Can some one please tell me where i go from here

[iam1butterfly]

I can somewhat relate as I recently went though a breakup (last September) with a man who also doesn't have the good manners to return phone messages and respond to e-mails. But, the relationship was on shaky ground towards the end; so, the break up wasn't an entire surprise. What was a surprise to me was my ex's total dismissal of the many positive aspects of the relationship. And, that realization hurt more than the actual break up. Clearly, my ex and I didn't see the relationship in the same light; nor valued our time together in the same degree. It would appear that your guy saw the relationship quite differently than you did. And, that's where the "pain and confusion" comes in. For whatever reason, your boyfriend has check out of the relationship... better to deal with this now, before making those plans to move. It'll take you a while to get over the shock and disappointment; but, you will get over it.

[RockRose]

What teko said.

Men don't leave a content,  peaceful relationships where they are getting sex to go to "nothing".  

Sorry this one didn't work out,  this is so hard.  

[DevastatedColleen]

OH BTW we are both 20 years old. and ive lived the life of two already.

[teko]

I am only guessing here, but the first thing that came to my mind while reading your post was, he has met someone else. I hope that is not the case, but that is what it sounds like. If he has shut you out so easily and quickly, he has been leading you on and is not man enough to give you the respect of an explannation. That alone tells me you are better off without him.