am i overreacting?

[support101]

I have been with my boyfriend for about 7 months and I love him to death. The problem is that every time we are around the men in his family, they start talking about how hot other women are. I find myself feeling very uncomfortable. My boyfriend NEVER has made a comment or chimed in with them so I don't know if i should bring it up to him because he is not doing anything wrong. I know it is normal for men to talk like this...but why drag out pictures of women while I am right there! The other guys do this right in front of there girlfriend or wives...just start talking about how hot other girls are. If I were them I would be so offended. Then they invite my boyfriend to a strip club....while he is sitting right in front of me, like I can't hear them, but they know i can here...they just don't care. They even start talking about how they should film porn because they would make so much money and how my boyriend can hold the camera. I trust my boyfriend because he disagrees when the other men in his family cheat on there girls....he gets real upset about it. Although he was born in America his family members are first generation Romanians...so maybe they are more oldfashion. They think women should cook and clean and be sex objects. Should I let this go or what? It annoys me a lot, but it's not really his fault.

[laura1977]

Listen, if your boyfriend didn't say anything then you shouldn't bring it up.  You can't prevent what other guys talk about around your boyfriend, but the fact that your boyfriend didn't join in is very good.  Some females have the saying look don't touch.  I personally don't like it when my husband would look, and I told him that it made me feel bad.  My husband doesn't do it in front of me, and he actually looks away from a pretty girl.  I'm not saying he doesn't check one out when I'm not there, and you know what fine, just not when he is with me.

[dreamynothing]

it's good you trust him...guys talk about other girls alot...doesn't mean that they are emotionally attached to them in anyway.  I think what you should do is sit him down and just talk it out.  If you know hes not cheating on you or done anything wrong, don't blame in for anything...just talk it out, let him get an understanding on how you feel.  He may not be aware on how uncomfortable it makes you feel.  Communication and trust are the biggies in relationship.  you have the trust part down...now go communicate!