sex after baby problems

[lilmama09704]

my boyfriend and have been dating almost 5 years and our sex life was good and usually alot of it. we were spontanious. i had a baby about 4 1/2 months ago and my boyfriend and i dont really have sex or anything as much anymore. ill be lucky to get it once a week if i ask. and sometimes ill go down on him if we dont have sex.. ive talked to him about it and he just says hes tired. and i can see why cause of university and baseball once a week. but its making me feel like i cant please him or turn him on anymore. we left for the weekend about 2 weeks ago and him and i booked a motel in toronto and the whole time we were up in the room we'd have sex. his call on it not mine! and someitmes it was back to back on it!lol. but why does it seem like he doesnt want me anymore since the baby has benn born? what can i do? what could it be?

[KATE535]

4 1/2 months is still too soon for your sex life to be back on track, in my opinion, after having a baby. There is so much to contend wth, so many new things to adjust to when you have a baby - your b/f is probably finding he is exhausted both physically and mentally. Take it from personal experience, I don't think mine came back until my son was a year old. But it WILL come back in time, and to something like it was before. He will eventually be more adapted to the routine with the baby, and so long as you're both interested in your sex life, there are ways to keep it alive after you have a child - you can still have a good sex life. After all children are not up til we are, you can still have romantic evenings when they're in the land of nod !! It will just take time and patience. It's unlikely he's gone off you, he's just got a lot on by the sounds of it.

[Judy246]

Welcome to the word of parenthood, school, work and being tired! I personally think you also need to give your body time to heal. I wouldn't pressure him, everything will fall into place....heck, once a week is pretty good for people with children (and people without children now a days).