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should I stay or leave my husband

Okay, my husband mentally abuses me.  He criticizes me, degrades me, makes extremely crudes jokes at my expense, doesn't allow me to visit him at work or invited any of my coworkers to my house,  doesn't help me clean our 3500 sq ft house at all even though I work full time and have a part time business (he has a full time job too), we don't have kids but I really want to have 2, he has grabbed my arm and bruised it twice (but not in about a year), we don't enjoy one anther at all, he won't go to church or read his bible any more, he yells at me, if i don't clean to his satisfaction he will take everything and throw it in the living room so i have to clean...  
I am scared to leave because I have always wanted to be a wife and mom and feel like if I divorce him that I won't meet someone before I go into menopause and can no longer have children.
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I think you would find it very interesting to read about Paul in the Bible...if you haven't already. Seriously, I'm not trying to be a smart butt or anything..... I just think you would enjoy reading about his life. If he were living today the two of you could have some very interesting conversations about religious and spiritual things. He was QUITE the orator....one of the very best. He was also an author, a great debater, such as yourself,  ;-)  ....a perfectionistic, driven but very focused man.  Paul is one of my favorite bible characters...pretty fascinating.
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Which part of the separation between church and state doesn
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Not a problem.  ;-)  God bless!
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I can sense your sincerity and believe you are a wonderful person who truly wants the best...God's best...for people. Thank you.
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LMFAO!

"Selective literalism" in action, folks. Check this gem out:

"Yes, divorce is a sin, according to the bible, because it is breaking an oath to God. BUT my point is this....... because we are God's children, I believe with all my heart that he does not intend for us to stay in an abusive relationship."

Hilarious. This poster has "interpreted" a passage of this mythology to fit her worldview. The authoritarian in the flowing robes says "divorce is a sin," but, it's okay for "her" or anybody she "advises" not to follow this particular "passage."

That's called cherrypicking, "re-interpreting," distorting, or simply ignoring what they choose to overlook in order to fit their own subjective viewpoint.

You either conform to the "tenets" of your book of fantasy completely, or we can all agree that it's a wash. You can't have it both ways, people.

Hypocrisy doesn't begin to describe you folks. Really.

This place is crawling with magical thinkers.
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Want2bhappy, I just want you to be happy and at peace. I am sorry you have been hurt and that you are carrying this burden..... most of us are just wanting to carry some of it for you. Just weigh it all and do as God leads you....
"For I know the plans I have for you says the Lord, plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." Jeremiah 29:11
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