Possible to for Gonorrhea to not show up in a test when you havve it?

[redlight13]

About two weeks after being the receptive partner in gay anal sex with a person other than my regular partner (yes he knows and is cool with this), I began having pain in the rectum, including feeling a bump inside when I put my finger in.  I thought it was a hemmorhoid (something I never had before) though I did not rule out Gonorrhea.  At this point, receptive anal sex had become extremely painful and after a few aborted attempts, I stopped having it, thinking I had to wait for the hemmorhoid to heal.  After 2 weeks of painful bowel movements, feeling like i had to have a bowel movement when I really didn't, general dry burning feelings in my rectum and around my anus, accompanied by white-green mucus attached to my stool (something that hadn't happened before),  I started noticing a white-green discharge coming from my anus, sometimes when I woke in the morning, I would notice a colorless crust around my anus.  Despite the pain that I thought was a hemmorhoid, I never had ANY blood in my stool or discharge. Lacking medical insurance, it took me a while to get the money to pay for an 80 dollar doctor's visit, he basically treated me for a hemmorhoid, giving me a script of suppositories that didn't really seem to help much, he even mentioned I may need to see a GI doctor.  I mentioned that there was a possiblity that it was Gonorrhea and so he took a swab from my rectum but a few days later the office called to say they used the wrong swabs and I would have to come back in to get tested again.  Not interested in further humilation or bills, I proceeded to go to a free STD health clinic where I was tested for everything including having blood drawn, swabs in my mouth and samples taken from my rectum for Gonorrhea, as I specifcally told them this might be an issue.  My results from the anal samples came back that I did not have Gonorrhea (or anything else for that matter) of course, my luck, that particular day I went, the discharge was light for that day, keeping the doctors from really seeing it.  At no point did anyone ask for a stool sample, despite me mentioning the mucus on my stool.  Around this time the pain began to subside, though the discharge varied by day, eventually clearing up for a while, though the white mucus on my stool remained.  After about a month of abstaining from receptive anal sex, I relented to my partner's desire (and mine) to resume having anal sex.  However, I had increased pain and sensitivty during sex, it just didn't feel the way it used to.  After the first minute the pain would subside but I would often feel like I had to urinate and while being penetrated, I would often ejaculate without any stimulaton to my penis, something else that never happened, making me think my prostate was swollen becuase I never had these sensations before with this partner and was used to the size of his penis.  I had pretty much accepted that I didn't have anything other than a hemmorhoid following the results of the test until when earlier this week my partner started having the tell tale signs of Gonorrhea in his penis including the discharge and pain.  We did the math and there's really no other person he could have gotten it from but me and I keep coming back to the same person that I would have gotten it from, and there's nobody else in between that either of us had contact with and I am very certain of this.  His symptoms began about one month after we resumed having anal sex with me as the receptive partner.  I've noticed a return of the discharge and have been having some pain again, the mucus on my stool remains.  Until this new development, I figured it was something related to my GI issues and I would just have to deal with the discomfort and what-not until i could afford to see a GI doctor.  Is it possible that they could have missed something when they took the sample from my rectum and I could actually have Gonorrhea?  My partner is awaiting his doctor's appointment later this week to find out if his problems are an STD or some other non-STD infection.  I am frustrated as I went to two doctors for this and felt as if I had gotten my results but now i'm second guessing them.  What the heck should I do???

[gracefromHHP]

any idea what testing they did for gonorrhea on you?  usually the free clinics do a decent job with the testing but worth finding out.  it also sounds like enough time had passed also so that shouldn't have been the issue.  

at this point, you and your partner both going back to be seen somewhere is a good idea since your symptoms continue. A thrombosed or even just inflammed hemorrhoid would indeed cause this many issues and the referred pain but not discharge if that was the issue.  Have you been using the otc hemorrhoid suppositories at all during all of this?

grace