One more thing to add...it doesn't matter how much you try to assess the risk. The point is, the risk is there whether it is high or low. So, better to get tested and know your status than trying to evaluate the risk.
Oral is the only one that is generally low risk. Unprotected vaginal, and anal should both be considered high risk. You cannot tell if someone has an std by looking a them right? And most people either do not know they have one or will not mention it.
How about this? Stop the "what ifs". Go get tested. Obviously this is bothering you quite a bit. Tell your girlfriend that you care for her and want to make sure that you have not brought anything into this relationship (or her for that matter). Hey, make it a date. Suggest you do it together so you both can relax and continue the relationship knowing for sure that you are both std free. Make sure she knows it is not that you don't trust her but it is not uncommon for people to have an std for an extended period of time and not know it. Refer her to this site or another if you must. But get yourself some peace of mind. You are not going to be 100% sure until you get tested.
oh nah i wasnt rly stressed jsut im in a realationship where i rly like this girl so i jsut dont wanna give her anything uk? i mean i just wanted to double check. okay thanks appriate it. but the only the last question i have if vaginal is low risk is anal sex a high risk than? and is it that much easyier to get a std from anal sex vs. vaginal? thanks for your help btw. i appricaite it.
Ejaculation has nothing to do with it whatsoever. There is fluid that can come out of the penis during sex before ejaculation.
You are worried about a low risk encounter that happened 6 months ago? And you have no symptoms? At this point all the stress you are putting yourself through about this situation is unnecessary. Consider yourself std free.
i was jsut wondering...is the odds of having unprotected sex without ejaculation...is that a high risk for chatching anything? im tlkaing about jsut one episode. s oyes if someone could jsut tell me the odds of contracting something from a one time thing....this was over 6 months ago btw
You really should be having protected oral sex unless it's a regular partner who's std status you are aware of.
www.ashastd.org has terrific, accurate and up to date info on std's for good reading.
grace
Yes, the risk is less than 5% chance with only unprotected oral sex.
so jsut to clear sum up everything you have said your basically saying stds are hard to get from jsut oral sex? and that odds are i probably didnt catch anything from having oral sex?
and yes ik i got worried about having hiv and than i read about the other stds and i really cant belive that stds are this common. i always figured you caught it if u really have a lot of unprotected sex. so yes i think im going to use protection even with oral sex now.
Oral std's are not easy to get. It would certainly be easier to get an std genitally from oral sex if one was present at the time depending on how long the exposure is, but it is still pretty rare.
You would not necessarily be showing symptoms. Some people are asymptomatic to std's. They have them, can pass them to sexual partners, but they do not know it. This is because they either do not have symptoms or the symptoms are so mild, they are passed off as an annoyance. It happens in women more than it does in men.
In this day and age...assume all unprotected sex is a risk for getting std's. Now, less than a few minutes of exposure may not do it (it takes prolonged exposure), but why take the chance? As much as I have been through, I know i will not worry excessively about oral sex, but no glove, no love as they say.