Our members have very thoroughly answered all of your questions about this event, and your conclusive testing after this event. There is no more information that our forums members can offer, and we support the suggestion that you seek counseling.
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Yes, it is all conclusive.
You barely had any risk, and I'm sure you overtested, so most of what you tested for you didn't even have risk for.
As I've said on numerous occasions, most experts don't think oral sex even warrants testing.
Herpes IgM is an unreliable test. It shouldn't be done. Stop doing that test. Just stop testing.
Please, get counseling.