Chances of infecting partner with chlamydia or gonn?

[flyingpass]

On 01-Nov-2008, I received oral sex (only) from a woman (one time). That was the only other sexual activity I have had with any partner in at least six months, and have otherwise had no STD's in my past. A week after that event, I was noticing some slight burning during urination, and a day later, some swelling and discomfort in my left testicle. Then, to horrify me more ;-o, I saw brown material in my ejaculate the next morning. I promptly went to my doctor for help, and he felt it was either chlamydia or gonorrhea, so he started me on antibiotics (Levaquin) and Naxproxen for swelling. I am awaiting the results of the tests. I seem to be getting better, which is good, but my main question is this:

The day _before_ I went to the doctor (the day before I noticed the brown material in the ejaculate), my wife and I kissed a few times, then she performed oral sex on me for approximately five minutes. I did NOT ejaculate into her mouth. There was no other sexual contact between us, and that was the only sexual event between us in recent past. If the tests come back with either of the two options as positive, what are the chances that I have given her that STD?

I take full responsibility for my actions, and am willing to fess up to this if needed so that she can get checked, but obviously, this would negatively affect my marriage and I would much rather keep this quiet, handle it and then repent and not do it again. ;-)

I realize estimates are rough -- I'm just looking for an idea of whether there is pretty strong chance she's got it, or whether the chances are slim.

Thank you for this forum!!

[auntiejessi]

I just noticed that you have posted this in the chlamydia forum.  Should you have follow up questions, pick one forum and stick with that.

Also, to clarify, not all std infections will infect the mouth.  The possibilities are gonorrhea, syphilis, and maybe chlamydia, though most experts say oral chlamydia is not a possibility.  

You can get herpes from giving someone oral sex, but its not at all likely.  Its far easier to give someone genital herpes from oral herpes via oral sex than it is to give someone oral herpes from genital herpes.  Again - its possible, but not likely.

Thanks,
Aj

[flyingpass]

Following up on this.

Tests turned up negative for both chlamydia and gonn, so it wasn't that. This MAY have just been a case of coincidental timing. The Levaquin seems to have cleared up the brownish matter in my ejaculate (which they confirmed was old blood, probably from an infection). Still have a bit of tenderness and swelling, but it's going away. They are now looking at non-STD possibilities.

My wife did get a sore throat (loss of voice, but no real pain per se), however, with minimal other cold/flu symptoms, but this too could just be coincidental (my daughter had the sore throat the week previous). I will still watch to see if it gets worse, but it's getting harder and harder to connect the dots between those two events.

Thanks for everyone's contribution -- it's been very helpful. If I have anything more to add that would close the loop here, I will.

[Tess1313]

Definately watch her symptoms. Basically, if you have an STD on/in your genitals and oral sex is givin, it can always be transferred no the matter the disease. Even if your wife has a yeast infection and you preform oral, you bet your butt 8/10 you'll have throat/mouth thrush. You can even get genital herpes in your mouth & throat. Everything is very transferrable. You not ejaculating is good, however as you know there are natural fuids you release and if you had either disease, it could be transferred easily. So watch her symptoms. It'll start to feel like Strep Throat, then it gets worse.

[Vance2335]

Well getting an STD from oral sex is low, but possible. If anything you would probably have NGU or gonorrhea. From everything I have heard chlymidia rarely if ever is in the mouth.

Also giving STD's from oral sex is low risk, but it is possible. If your tests come up positive then she could have gotten it and would need a throat swab. I don't know if NGU can be passed to another person from oral sex, but gonorrhea can.

So the chance of you getting a STD via oral sex is low and then giving it is low, but still possible.