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Encounter that went further than I wanted
Hi
I’m a married man and recently met a man.
This was supposed to be for us to get naked and watch each other wank without touching.
However it went further than I hoped. We kissed for a short while. I asked to touch his penis and I did for about a minute (shaft only). It was flaccid at the time. He did similar to mine for about 30 seconds.
Where my concern is is he then kissed my body. But then went to kiss my penis. He kissed my shaft, not bell end (I think/hope) until I asked him to stop. I then walked and he touched my body till I came. He then got up and cuddled me and his penis was against my buttocks. He didn’t cum.
I wanted this to be a no touch experience but now I’m worried I’ve exposed myself to std through him kissing my penis shaft and the body to body contact and kiss. He’s told me he’s clean.
Can anybody advise if I should test. I don’t want to give anything to my wife. Should I stop all sex with her?
Thank you
I’m a married man and recently met a man.
This was supposed to be for us to get naked and watch each other wank without touching.
However it went further than I hoped. We kissed for a short while. I asked to touch his penis and I did for about a minute (shaft only). It was flaccid at the time. He did similar to mine for about 30 seconds.
Where my concern is is he then kissed my body. But then went to kiss my penis. He kissed my shaft, not bell end (I think/hope) until I asked him to stop. I then walked and he touched my body till I came. He then got up and cuddled me and his penis was against my buttocks. He didn’t cum.
I wanted this to be a no touch experience but now I’m worried I’ve exposed myself to std through him kissing my penis shaft and the body to body contact and kiss. He’s told me he’s clean.
Can anybody advise if I should test. I don’t want to give anything to my wife. Should I stop all sex with her?
Thank you
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There is no risk from him kissing your penis, assuming he didn't suck or kissing it for any amount of time. A quick kiss or lick isn't going to transmit anything.
His penis touching your bottom as you cuddled is fine, too. The skin to skin contact STDs - herpes, syphilis and HPV - require some friction to transmit, and the skin on your butt is too thick for them to penetrate.
There is no risk from hands touching your penis, either, or your hands touching his.
I see no reason to test, or to avoid any contact with your wife.
His penis touching your bottom as you cuddled is fine, too. The skin to skin contact STDs - herpes, syphilis and HPV - require some friction to transmit, and the skin on your butt is too thick for them to penetrate.
There is no risk from hands touching your penis, either, or your hands touching his.
I see no reason to test, or to avoid any contact with your wife.
Thanks for your response. He kissed it about twice or three times for no more than 30 seconds and it was my shaft an: balls. Pretty sure he didn’t reach my bell end.
Based on this you believe this total experience is zero risk?
When I asked him about std he laughed and said our encounter wouldn’t be a risk and also he states he is clean.
I’m just worried!
Based on this you believe this total experience is zero risk?
When I asked him about std he laughed and said our encounter wouldn’t be a risk and also he states he is clean.
I’m just worried!
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I think you're fine. Kisses aren't going to transmit anything, and the skin on your scrotum is thicker and harder to penetrate with germs.
Really, you have nothing to worry about. I'd feel fine calling this zero risk. :)
Remember that guilt and anxiety does not equal risk. You can "what if" it all day, and it doesn't mean you had risk.
Really, you have nothing to worry about. I'd feel fine calling this zero risk. :)
Remember that guilt and anxiety does not equal risk. You can "what if" it all day, and it doesn't mean you had risk.
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