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One night stand - what next?
Last night I had a heterosexual/unprotected one night stand with a good friend who I have known for over 10 years. While we've been great friends for years, we had always remained platonic for a variety of reasons until last night.
Since she has been a good friend we've talked about everything over the years. Because of this, I know her to be quite promiscuous. Over the years, I've had mostly protected sex with a handful of women and she's had all kinds of sex with dozens of partners although she has slowed down considerably in recent years. She says that she's never contracted anything and that she used to get tested regularly. Tested for what? I'm not quite sure. Either way, I don't think she gets tested anymore.
I do take her at her word that she has never tested positive for anything and that she has never displayed any symptoms. Despite this, I'm naturally an internet-fueled worrier and I'm wondering what I could have been exposed to last night and when I should go about getting myself tested. Can you forum regulars help me out and comment on my concerns below?
1) HPV - As far as I know, there is no test for this in males, correct? The statistics that I've read suggest that there is a strong possibility that she has either carried the virus or currently carries it. Assuming that she does carry it, what are the chances that I could have picked it up after a one night stand?
2) HIV - The statistics suggest that it's highly unlikely that I could have contracted HIV. Do you all agree with this? When should I be tested?
3) Herpes - If she had ever knowingly had symptoms, I would have known about it years ago. If she's an asymptomatic carrier, though, what is the likelyhood that she'd pass it on during a one night stand? How long should I wait to be tested?
4) Chlamydia/Gonnorhea/Syphillis - how likely is it that she'd go years with no symptoms? When should I be tested?
5) Hepatitis B/C - how common is this transmitted sexually? Are there reliable tests? How long should I wait?
Since she has been a good friend we've talked about everything over the years. Because of this, I know her to be quite promiscuous. Over the years, I've had mostly protected sex with a handful of women and she's had all kinds of sex with dozens of partners although she has slowed down considerably in recent years. She says that she's never contracted anything and that she used to get tested regularly. Tested for what? I'm not quite sure. Either way, I don't think she gets tested anymore.
I do take her at her word that she has never tested positive for anything and that she has never displayed any symptoms. Despite this, I'm naturally an internet-fueled worrier and I'm wondering what I could have been exposed to last night and when I should go about getting myself tested. Can you forum regulars help me out and comment on my concerns below?
1) HPV - As far as I know, there is no test for this in males, correct? The statistics that I've read suggest that there is a strong possibility that she has either carried the virus or currently carries it. Assuming that she does carry it, what are the chances that I could have picked it up after a one night stand?
2) HIV - The statistics suggest that it's highly unlikely that I could have contracted HIV. Do you all agree with this? When should I be tested?
3) Herpes - If she had ever knowingly had symptoms, I would have known about it years ago. If she's an asymptomatic carrier, though, what is the likelyhood that she'd pass it on during a one night stand? How long should I wait to be tested?
4) Chlamydia/Gonnorhea/Syphillis - how likely is it that she'd go years with no symptoms? When should I be tested?
5) Hepatitis B/C - how common is this transmitted sexually? Are there reliable tests? How long should I wait?
you've had no symptoms suggestive of herpes infection. if you are concerned, follow up with igg testing at the proper time.
To followup on my post from several weeks ago, I'm still concerned about the level of risk that I placed myself in with my unprotected one night stand mainly because of my friend/partner's history of promiscuity.
The date of the encounter was February 8, 2012. Two weeks after that, I started to notice some discomfort in my penis - an itch or mild burn. Perhaps psychosomatic, perhaps not. It's not excruciating, but definitely uncomfortable.
I went to my general practitioner for an exam six weeks after the encounter and he noticed nothing visible (warts, ulcers). At this time, I tested negative for chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. He then referred me to a urologist who I'll see in another couple of weeks.
After the negative tests, my main concerns are now HSV and HPV. Again, my one night stand partner says that she's never had any STD symptoms whatsoever - no warts, ulcers, or irregular pap. Despite this, her sexual history and the rates that I've read from reputable websites suggest that it's likely that she's an asymptomatic carrier of one or both of these viruses. Don't quote me on this, but I seem to remember something like 20% of American adults carry HSV and among that group, 80% of them don't know it (ie have never had an outbreak). Keeping in mind that that the friend who I had an unprotected one night stand with is about 50 years old and has been very sexually active for the last 30+ years, is it safe to assume that she's probably an asymptomatic carrier of HSV?
Assuming that she is, my question for the group is now, what are the chances of me catching HSV from her aysmptomatic shedding? None of the studies that I've read mention transmission rates from people who have never had an outbreak. Can someone out there help shed some light? I haven't slept well in almost three months.
The date of the encounter was February 8, 2012. Two weeks after that, I started to notice some discomfort in my penis - an itch or mild burn. Perhaps psychosomatic, perhaps not. It's not excruciating, but definitely uncomfortable.
I went to my general practitioner for an exam six weeks after the encounter and he noticed nothing visible (warts, ulcers). At this time, I tested negative for chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. He then referred me to a urologist who I'll see in another couple of weeks.
After the negative tests, my main concerns are now HSV and HPV. Again, my one night stand partner says that she's never had any STD symptoms whatsoever - no warts, ulcers, or irregular pap. Despite this, her sexual history and the rates that I've read from reputable websites suggest that it's likely that she's an asymptomatic carrier of one or both of these viruses. Don't quote me on this, but I seem to remember something like 20% of American adults carry HSV and among that group, 80% of them don't know it (ie have never had an outbreak). Keeping in mind that that the friend who I had an unprotected one night stand with is about 50 years old and has been very sexually active for the last 30+ years, is it safe to assume that she's probably an asymptomatic carrier of HSV?
Assuming that she is, my question for the group is now, what are the chances of me catching HSV from her aysmptomatic shedding? None of the studies that I've read mention transmission rates from people who have never had an outbreak. Can someone out there help shed some light? I haven't slept well in almost three months.
The risk from a one time , unprotected encounter is very low in general.
correct - no testing readily available for hpv for males.
you can test for chlamydia and gonorrhea any time after 1 week post encounter. syphilis after 6 weeks. herpes, hiv and hepatitis after 3 months if you want to properly cover your bases with testing.
grace
correct - no testing readily available for hpv for males.
you can test for chlamydia and gonorrhea any time after 1 week post encounter. syphilis after 6 weeks. herpes, hiv and hepatitis after 3 months if you want to properly cover your bases with testing.
grace
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