Condom in vagina risk

[gbuk18]

I am a 31 year old white British male with no kids who had vagina sex with a condom with a divorced 42 year old white British female with 3 kids - one night stand on the 01 June 2018. She was drunk and happy with sex being unprotected but I insisted in using condom protection for sex as I was only tipsy.

Two week ago, I got tested for chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis and hiv after unprotected sex three weeks earlier - all negative. I showed the female my results after sex. I do not know when the female in question last got tested as I do not know her well enough. She claims she last had sex several months ago with a 67 year old british male (her old friend).

The question(s) is based on my concern is that when I withdrew from her vagina upon ejaculating. I noticed that the condom was not my penis any more resulting in my seman/sperm landing on the bed covers. The condom was found to be deep inside her vagina top right intact which freaked both of us out. She could not feel it and we thought it on somewhere around the bed as we could not locate it.

Throughout the sex (lasted about a hour), the condom remained intact and on my penis shaft (50%-100% covered, normal condom behaviour) but I am unsure why it stayed inside the vagina at the end of sex. I only noticed it missing when I pulled out of her vagina. How do condoms get stuck deep in the vagina? Does it get sucked up like a vacuum when you pulled out? Does it just slide off/up due to friction/wetness. Surely my penis head was protected. I am confused and worried about stds which I am looking for sound medical advice.

Please, can you let me know of my risks? Is it worth getting tested again? I am planning a urine chlamydia postkit test in 3 days time (results back within 7 days) then going to keep a close eye on my penis for gonorrhea and herpes symptoms over the next 4-7 days.

I am worrying like mad and feel sick. She says don't worry but I am worrying. Help!!!

[gbuk18]

Update. I have carried out a urine chamydia test  after 3 days. It is in the post and results will be back within a week.

Also, I have booked a STD doctors appointment for Friday (6 days 8 hours since exposure) to get tested for the standard 4 panel, C and G, Syphilis and HIV.

However, today (5 days), I woke up with dry scrotum so I decided to use to moisturiser around my penis and scrotum. Few hours later, I noticed a one red spot on right hand side of my scrotum, it could be just a inflammed frdyce spot from using the moisturiser or herpes. Hope it is not herpes, I am worried. Surely, if you got herpes, it's normally a collection of herpes spots on the penis head and shaft.

Lastly, still to this day. I do not understand how the condom got stuck in the lady's vagina during sex.  I am hoping that I was protected until I pulled out.

[gbuk18]

Sorry for the confusion, I have not been tested since the condom incident two days ago. The tests I had two weeks was from having unprotected sex with someone else.  I am planning a urine chlamydia test at day 3 to send away to the lab via the post.

I am working on the basis that if I do not have any symptoms after 7 days it's unlikey that I have caught herpes (first outbreak 4-7 days) or gonnerhea (95% of men experience discharge with 4 days).

[caliman2345]

Sorry I did not get catch the 01June date mentioned in your original post. 3-4 days should be sufficient for Chlamydia and Gonnorhea test. Most people will see herpes symptoms within 1 week, but sometimes it takes up to 2 weeks. But if you don't see anything within the first week, it will be a very good indication that you did not catch it. Since most of the exposure was condom protected, your risk is very very low.

[caliman2345]

Herpes symptoms generally appear within 3 weeks of exposure. So you shouldn't worry a lot at this point.

[gbuk18]

The first outbreak of herpes happens between 4 - 7 days?

[caliman2345]

I can't explain the Physics behind why condoms get stuck when the male is taking his penis out, but I have read enough online posts on the topic to know that it is not uncommon. As long as condom was intact when you were having sex, and it got stuck only when you were pulling your penis out, you were protected. Your Chlamydia and Gonnorhea tests are conclusive any time more than 4-5 days after the exposure, so you don't need to repeat them. The likelihood of your partner having HIV is very less and even though HIV test 2 weeks after exposure is not conclusive, but it's very encouraging. You don't mention which HIV test you got, so I can't give you a percentage here. But consider this..your exposure it very very low risk (assuming condom was intact during sex), then statistically your partner is very unlikely to have HIV, and your 2 weeks HIV test is negative. Putting all these things together, the chance that you have HIV is vanishingly low. If you would still like to get the assurance of a conclusive test result- current 4th Gen HIV tests are 99% accurate at 4 weeks and conclusive at 6 weeks.

[gbuk18]

Sorry for the confusion, I have not been tested since the condom incident two days ago. The tests I had two weeks was from having unprotected sex with someone else.  I am planning a urine chlamydia test at day 3 to send away to the lab via the post.

[gbuk18]

Also, shall I test again?