STD Risk Concern

[rjk1980]

Today I am feeling not only quite foolish for having done something so out of character but terrified of the possible consequences.  While a bit inebriated, I admittedly let lust get the better of me and went back with a man I had just met and had sex with him.  Our sexual contact was limited to mutual back and forth hand-to-genital contact and me performing oral sex on him with a condom.  What has me concerned however is that my mouth and tongue came in contact with his scrotum, which showed no visible signs of STDs, and that both of us had a fair amount of pre-***.  My concern is that I might have had and did in all probability had some of this man's pre-*** transferred to my genitals and mouth, despite the precaution with the condom.  Having read Dr. Edward W Hook's response to someone on the matter of genital-to-hand-to-genital contact in regard to HSV transfers, which he says is virtually non-existent (http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/621148), my question is if I now have anything to worry about other STD besides HSV, like HIV of gonorrhea, etc from the genital-to-hand-to-genital contact I had as well as, however minimal, contact with pre-*** exposure from this other man orally with his scrotum and having oral sex with him, even with a condom?  In particular, my concern is what seminal transfer there might have been on the outside of the condom when I put the condom on him as well as coming in oral contact with his scrotal area.

My friends think I am worrying needlessly, but feeling both foolish and afrad of the consequences today, this is something so far out of my character that I am feeling quite low and depressed.  I am not promiscuous and can count on a single hand the number of partners I have been with in total.  I am a healthy person and never ever have engaged in any risky behavior and wondering if I should be tested now and what risks I should be concerned about after this incident and having this situation put into a proper medical context.  Did I put myself in any risk for an STD like HIV or other STDs and what, if anything, should I be concerned about and do?

Sound medical advice on this would be greatly appreciated.

Sincerely,
RJK  

[auntiejessi]

He had it years and years ago.  He's long since been rid of that infection.

It has no affect on you at all.

Aj

[rjk1980]

Thanks again AJ.  I just freaked out today thinking about this and then learning afterwards he had gonnarhea once.

[auntiejessi]

Again, I wouldn't worry about this.  Even if you had given him full on unprotected oral, your chances of std would be low.

AJ

[rjk1980]

He had some pre-ejactulate on his glands and was masturbating.  This is what has me concerned when we was masturbating me.  There could have been and most likely was some transfer of his pre-ejaculate on his hands to my genitals.  Also when I put the condom on him, I am not sure if there might have been some pre-ejaculate that might have gone on the outside of the condom, as the condom slip somehwat when I was rolling it down over his glands.  My concern then is when I kissed and licked his scrotum or sucked him off (even with the condom) that I might have gotten some of his pre-ejactulate in my mouth--our on my gentials from the genital-to-hand-to-genital contact we had.

Hope this clarifies and thanks for your kind posts.

[auntiejessi]

No risk for HIV, and maybe - and its a BIG maybe - for stds.  

I don't see a real need to test.  You used a condom for oral, so I am missing how its possible that you got his fluids in your mouth.  Oral is much less riskier than intercourse.

Genital to hand to genital is not at all an efficient way to transmit stds.  I suppose if you want to test, just get tested with either a urine or vaginal swab test in a week for gonorrhea and chlamydia, but I see no reason for this at all.

Aj

[rjk1980]

Hi AJ,

Maybe I am, but this really has me so concerned.  

Thanks for the post.  You don't believe that I put myself for risk for anything like HIV or any STD then even if I cam in contact with seminal fluid, however small?  Or in oral contact with his genital region?

Also, what would these test you mention entail, i.e. blood taking or genital or mouth inspection?  

I actually managed to speak to this man tonight and mentioned my concerns and asked him straight out if he had any STDs.  He is in his late 40's and told me that decades ago he had been treated for gonorrhea but hasn't had it ever since.  Does this change anything?

Thanks in advance. :)

[auntiejessi]

I have to agree with your friends and say you are over-reacting some.

Your chances of getting anything this way are slim to none.  If you are so concerned, then get tested in a week for gonorrhea and chlamydia, but truly, its not anything I would even worry about.

And for being inebriated, you did well - you used a condom for oral, which most don't do sober.  :)

Aj