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STD Transmission From Handjobs..Dried Semen...?
Thanks for taking the time to read my anxiety-ridden post. I am feeling very nervous about a sexual encounter from a few nights ago and would like to ask some questions and try to relax my racing mind. I hope this don't sound so dumb. Despite the wealth of info on this site, I can't seem to find a situation like mine.
The encounter: I engaged in mutual masturbation with a guy a few nights ago...
1. I jacked him off until completion, maybe got a little of his semen on my hands (I noticed I had a very small cut on my index finger used on the hand, but not an open sore, per se, and definitely not bleeding or anything).
2. After he finished, I went to the bathroom straight away and washed my hands with some soap and hot water.
3. I returned to the bed, where he proceeded to jack me off a bit - he did NOT wash his hands after he finished himself off and could have had semen on his hands still and/or cuts/abrasions -- after maybe 20-30 seconds, I took over and finished myself.
4. During the above, he tried to put his mouth on my penis, but only lasted 1-2 seconds before I stopped him.
5. Afterwards, I went home, but did not wash again until I got there, since only my dried semen was on my hands.
Given that encounter, I am really just curious of:
Is it possible he could have transmitted an STD to me, assuming he masturbated my penis for a few minutes and had dried semen still on his hands? Also, I know the risk is low, but he did try to suck my penis for a second or two.
My primary concern is the likelihood of contracting HSV or HPV from this encounter, but also, any other STDs?
Any thoughts would be helpful.
The encounter: I engaged in mutual masturbation with a guy a few nights ago...
1. I jacked him off until completion, maybe got a little of his semen on my hands (I noticed I had a very small cut on my index finger used on the hand, but not an open sore, per se, and definitely not bleeding or anything).
2. After he finished, I went to the bathroom straight away and washed my hands with some soap and hot water.
3. I returned to the bed, where he proceeded to jack me off a bit - he did NOT wash his hands after he finished himself off and could have had semen on his hands still and/or cuts/abrasions -- after maybe 20-30 seconds, I took over and finished myself.
4. During the above, he tried to put his mouth on my penis, but only lasted 1-2 seconds before I stopped him.
5. Afterwards, I went home, but did not wash again until I got there, since only my dried semen was on my hands.
Given that encounter, I am really just curious of:
Is it possible he could have transmitted an STD to me, assuming he masturbated my penis for a few minutes and had dried semen still on his hands? Also, I know the risk is low, but he did try to suck my penis for a second or two.
My primary concern is the likelihood of contracting HSV or HPV from this encounter, but also, any other STDs?
Any thoughts would be helpful.
Thanks, Vance. Appreciate the responses greatly. Feeling a little less stressed about the situation now.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Ok . Having sex outside a life long, long term partner exposes them to transmitted diseases. Some are high risk, some low risk and some no risk. The problem is we dont know their past.
If a person posted a question that they had unprotected sex with their life long partner and asked if they were at risk to contracting STD,s the experts would say no.
If they posted a question that they had unprotected sex with a newly met person they would say yes.
This was my point. i use the word marriage as im from the old school.
If a person posted a question that they had unprotected sex with their life long partner and asked if they were at risk to contracting STD,s the experts would say no.
If they posted a question that they had unprotected sex with a newly met person they would say yes.
This was my point. i use the word marriage as im from the old school.
Last time this is going to be said...NO RISK.
Life was just pointing out that a lot of people come here with anxiety from something done outside of marriage.
Life was just pointing out that a lot of people come here with anxiety from something done outside of marriage.
This was not sex outside of marriage; not sure how that is relevant. I am just trying to assess my risk and understand if I should have legitimate concerns. There is so much confusing and conflicting information online about this stuff.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Thats ok. People without meds go through the same as you. All of this stems from sex outside of marriage.
Thanks, Life360. As you can read, my concerns were about possible transmission of STDs from his hands (semen on them, dry or wet) to my penis. You're right, I did not perform any oral on him, and like I noted, he only *barely* put me in his mouth for a second before I stopped him. Let's hope that one second wasn't enough to transmit something.
Again, the amount of mutual touching was so small, I am starting to realize that I am probably overreacting. I just have trouble with anxiety (on meds), so sometimes it takes a lot of convincing for me to feel stable.
:/
Again, the amount of mutual touching was so small, I am starting to realize that I am probably overreacting. I just have trouble with anxiety (on meds), so sometimes it takes a lot of convincing for me to feel stable.
:/
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi and welcome. Vance said mutual masturbation is NO risk not LOW risk.
Unprotected oral sex is low risk and from what you describe would not be considered oral sex, well at least the kind of sex you would be at low risk for contracting something. By him putting your penis in his mouth put him more at risk than you as std bacterias are in the penis more than the mouth.
HSV is a virus that enters the body through mucous membranes. From what i know, there are not membranes in the hands and you did not give him oral.
Unprotected oral sex is low risk and from what you describe would not be considered oral sex, well at least the kind of sex you would be at low risk for contracting something. By him putting your penis in his mouth put him more at risk than you as std bacterias are in the penis more than the mouth.
HSV is a virus that enters the body through mucous membranes. From what i know, there are not membranes in the hands and you did not give him oral.
I understand masturbation is low risk.
My questions are around him having semen, dried or not, on his hands when he masturbated me since he did not wash up after he finished himself, then proceeded to play with me.
Also, he put his mouth on my penis, though it was only for a few seconds.
My questions are around him having semen, dried or not, on his hands when he masturbated me since he did not wash up after he finished himself, then proceeded to play with me.
Also, he put his mouth on my penis, though it was only for a few seconds.
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