Sick with Worry

[SillyBilly187]

Dear Doctor(s) / All,

I have read many posts on this forum which have helped answer some questions and provide some reassurance but I would still like to ask my questions for peace of mind and due to my circumstances.

I am 36 year old male, married and my wife is 3 months pregnant with our 2nd child.

Around 2 months ago I did something very, very stupid by received & giving unprotected oral sex from/to a female colleague.  In the time frame after this I do not remember having any physical symptoms (discharge / pain while urinating) and decided to forgot about the incident and put it down to stupidity.  However, about 3-4 weeks I received 15-30 secs of unprotected oral sex from another female colleague but stopped it and did not ejaculate.

Initially, I again did not have any symptoms (no discharge, sores or what I consider pain when urinating).  About 5 days ago my penis (and end of penis) plus testicles felt like they were burring and it seems to be constant.  I also had a small irritation visible on the top of my penis but I put this down to irritation from 'sleeping on an erection' as I noticed it when I woke up one morning.  I also thought it could be thrush as my wife (and I) have suffered from this on and off since we have been together for the last 12 years.  I used some canesten cream but I still think that I can see an small irritation around the opening of my penis.  I also spoke to the 2nd female colleague to ask her if I had any risk.  She said that she and the partner she had at the time, had a full check up and tests in November 2008 and were all clear and that since breaking up with him in January, has not had any other sexual encounters - although I only have her word on this but do not think she would lie as she knows my circumstances.

Following the irritation I started to do some reading on the internet and found this site.  Although my symptoms could be anxiety related, the burning sensations seem to be constant and are not going away.  I feel the burring sensation the whole day long but am not woken during sleep from it and it seems to be 'OK' when I first wake up.

I have arranged for some tests (Chlamydia & Gon) but will have to wait for this until next week and am now very worried that I have an STD (Chlamydia) or NGU and that I could have infected my wife (no sex since 2nd incident) and will / have affect my unborn child.

Can you please offer any additional advice on my risk exposure, likely hood of one of the above conditions or potentially something else!?  I have spoken to a trusted friend and my brother (who have both been silly in their time) and they think that due to my circumstances and non-promiscuous past, I am over worrying, but to me the burring sensation in my penis and scrotum seem very real!?

Thank you in advance for your response and advice.

[Vance2335]

I can say that 90% of the men who get gonorrhea will show symptoms and I think NGU will show symptoms no matter what. Syphilis will show also. Herpes will form time to time will not show but I don't know that stats on that.
I am not a Dr nor do not work in the field, but I have gained my knowledge from AJ who works in the field and answers questions here and the Dr's that answe questions on this site.

I will also tell you that I was like you, scared of a STD from oral and I did not get a STD. As I said getting a STD from oral sex is very difficult.

I do not know how harmful NGU could be.

I suggest that you go into the STD experts forum and seach for oral sex and read what Dr.Hook and Dr.HHH have to say, maybe words from them will help you even more.

[SillyBilly187]

Thanks vance - this helps.  I should also add that I have been peeing a lot but no other signs apart form the irritation on the end of my penis.  

In your experience and from what you obviously know, how many cases have you seen where unprotected oral sex does result in an STD or NGU withour visible symptoms such as discharge etc.

Also, if it were NGU, how harful can this be to a woman & unborn child?

[Vance2335]

Not the Dr's site, but I can try to help.
Your risk was very low. Most STD's are not transfered via oral sex, the most common ones are gonorrhea and NGU which symptoms would have shown within 1 week or at most 30 days. So you are in the very rare time frame for the second encounter but the duration of the oral sex makes it unlikely that you got a STD.

Since you are very worried I would recommend testing just to ease your mind. Test for Gonorrhea. Chlymida is not passed via oral sex, if it is it is very very rare for it to happen. Syphilis in a woman is very rare also and as for herpes if the woman had oral herpes then you could get that.

But overall your risk was very low and on the Dr's side they do not recommend testing in cases like thise other then to ease your mind.