Testing before sex

[jayman1ppu]

I'm just wondering if it's unreasonable to demand an STD test of a potential sexual partner before even considering engaging in anything. Sometimes I think I'm alone when it comes to not be willing to jump into bed with just anyone. And i really don't know how a potential partner would even react considering most of the ones i know don't seem to take things too seriously.

Am I out of line to basiclly not trust people unless they show some proof?

[auntiejessi]

If someone gets pissed about asking for testing, I'd wonder how you are asking it.  I ask all my partners to test, and no one has ever reacted badly.  Are you offering to test at the same time?  Are you saying that its possible you have something and want to make sure you don't pass something unwittingly to them?

If you are asking nicely, so to speak, and they get insulted, maybe cut them a little break.  A lot of people still think "std = dirty" or **** or whatever.  If they refuse, they don't respect themselves enough, and don't respect you enough.  I figure I'm worth a guy going to pee in a cup and get a little blood drawn, and they are worth it for me to do the same.

Aj

[jayman1ppu]

I just wish there was actually a girl out their who doesn't get pissed when you want to test. It's like they get insulted and as if it's impossible for them to catch anything. And you become a total wuss in their eyes for even considering it.

[auntiejessi]

I'd ask them - not "demand" - but I would also be ready to test and show them proof of my std status.

This is a good thing, as long as you are saying you just want to make sure both of you are ok, and not putting it just on her.  Its all in the approach.

Aj