Massage Parlor Incident with a handjob

[massageparlor]

This is more of a warning than anything else who has irrational fear about contracting any STDs.   By the time, you find this message, most pepople have already done what I did; however, I am posting this in the hope of releaving someone who is going through the emotional pain, guilt, anxiety and suffering.  After visiting this site, most of us recognize that receiving a simple handjob pose virtually ZERO STD risk to you.  Drs assure us on that several messages.  Here is my story.  I am married with two beatiful kids. Over 12 years of marriage, I have taken everything for granted (marriage,wife,kids, decent job, decent house) and  about 8 weeks ago, I visited a local massage parlor and received a hanjob.  Three days later my penis started hurting and I also experienced major lower abdominal discomfort and that was when extreme guilt and anxiety consumed me for the next several weeks.  I went to see my GP and received CL and GN tests after a week from the visit.  It came back negative.
I surfed more information including CPPS almost everyday looking for clues.  I suffered from frequent urination and visited urologist whose question was "Did you tell your wife about this?".  He offered Hepatitis panel and syphyllis tests and that actually planted more fear in me because around this time, my groin started hurting.   Both of the tests came back negative.   8 weeks later, I still was suffering from GAD and guilt and decided to take 8 panel test because I could not tolerate putting my wife at any kind of risk and everything inlcuding herpes and HIV came back negative.   I finally see the end of the tunnel now but since this is the only way to contribute to this forum I decided to share my story.   At the age of 41, I am still learning about myself that I have extremely low tolerance for stress when it comes to STD and for those of you who are wondering about massage parlor with a hanjob and found this message because there is no STD risk, think about the great psycological stress it may cause you as it did to me.
Retrospectively, this may have been one of the few ways for me to start appreciating what many of take for granted, "sexual health" or overall "mental health".   I will have to figure out how to fix the CPPS-like symptom I still have but this is a small price to pay compare to losing everything I have built with my family and friends.  I just want to say thank you Drs on this forum for providing knowledge that relieve so many people's mind.   May god bless you.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

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[corkbored]

This happend yesterday

Im glad i found this site. Same deal with both of you. visited a massage with the same ending but this time the masseuse (female) gave me a blowjob for a good minute or two. I should have said stop from the beginning but ended up saying no too late. it was already done. the sad part is I proceeded to finish through a handjob.

Im married, we've been together for 13yrs but married for 3. and now i am consumed with guilt and anxiety. I cant bring myself to confess and I am very worried that I might have something in the few days to come.

I Agree with how this damging cycle of anxiety and uncertainty is hurting me. I just wanted to cry last night.

I know all the doctors here say that theres low risk of contracting anything but im not really sure yet since this is the first day. I pray that theres nothing. I just want to get out of this nightmare.

[Max112]

I hear you, I have cried, I have regretted my actions every minute and every hour since the incident for last 4 weeks. I even went to my doctor after a week and got tested but it does not mean much.. Going to get tested again after couple of months..Every little thing happens with my body in past 4 weeks, gives another anxiety and fear...I confessed to my wife because I did not want her to catch anything from me even if possibility is 0.0000001%. She was understanding initially but as soon as it all sunk in to her of what I have done our communication has stopped. I haven't hugged and kissed her for last 4 weeks. Our relationship is going through so much strain, because I just cant get over the incident and cant get back to normal. Its just not worth it, all I want is to go back being happy with my wife and daughter. I would never ever in my life, go to a massage parlor again...I hope you get over this soon, and be safe and healthy..I kept on googling things and came across this post..just wanted to talk to somebody..

[Max112]

Google has been more dreadful than being helpful tool..My fear and anxiety just shoots up when I read some random posts...

[Max112]

Hello,
I am going through the same ordeal, I am a married man with beautiful daughter. This was the first time I ended up in massage parlor and masseuse gave me handjob. I did not really enjoy it, it may have lasted 20-30 seconds. But just the guilt and anxiety is killing me. I confessed to my wife and she was disturbed too. I never dated anybody except my wife all my 35 yrs of life. Now I am just worried soul about HIV and STDs for past 4 weeks. I just want to end this phase, and return back to being happy with my family...