Type of doctor?

[rusty75309]

I have looked through the forum, but I can't find quite the answer to my question...

I had protected sex with a high-risk female 4 months ago.  I have regretted it ever since, so I have learned my lesson...  Now, I am trying to move on...  

I went to a primary care clinic to try to blunt my anxiety.  I got tested for Chlamydia, HSV, Syphilis, Gonorhea, and HIV four days after the fact and three months after.  All of the tests came back negative.  Now, I have a spot on my scrotum that looks white when I apply pressure under it.  It is ovular in shape and the biggest dimension is probably about the width of a dime.  After reading online about the potential risks, my uneducated guess (or fear) is HPV.  I have not been reassured by the knowledge of the doctor that I have visited for the initial tests, so I am looking for a second opinion or a suggestion on the type of doctor that I should talk to.  Additionally, if it is HPV, should I tell my wife?  I talked to a counselor who advised me to work through my issues and not tell my wife what I had done.  I want to be open, but I want to save my marriage...  

[rusty75309]

Correction....

In my original post, I mistakenly identified the risk factors of my sex partner.  In my post-event guilt, I over-reacted to a comment the girl made and made an incorrect assessment.  I now know that the only risk-factor that she had was multiple partners.  I am not going to delude myself.  There is nothing all that special about me, so I am sure she has had experiences similar to ours previously.  But, I think the reduction in her overall risk status is worth sharing.  I have had enough testing to convince me that I am ok, but it is good to get good news.

[rusty75309]

It seems strange and may not be the goal or purpose of this forum, but trying to discuss my anxiety seems helpful...

I have moved on from worrying about having acquired any diseases, but every sniffle causes me a cringe of worry.  I am worried that somehow my horrible decision will become known outside of this anonymous forum.  I can't believe that I made such a bad decision, and (like everyone else I am sure) wish it could be undone.

When I first had my encounter, the girl said something that made me think she had been especially high-risk.  In my guilt-induced irrationality, I assumed the worst.  I have just now learned that I had no basis for this assumption.  

The only positive that I have garnered from this experience is a profound understanding of how much I love my family and how much I will do to avoid ever risking that in the future.  I just wish I hadn't gone through this experience to truly understand these things.

[rusty75309]

Thanks!  I think I am moving on from the worries about physical fallout, but I am still struggling to deal with the emotional trouble that I am having.  You are right, my main issue is guilt.  I know that I didn't do anything illegal, but I can't believe I made such a stupid decision and had the encounter with such a high-risk person.  I have never done anything remotely like that before.  

[joggen]

There are no doctors on this forum. Your tests are conclusive. Herpes is usually recommended at 4 months for a conclusive result, but since you never really had a risk from protected sex, you can consider that conclusive.

Regarding the spot on your scrotum, you might want to get a second opinion from a doctor or nurse at an STD clinic, although I would think most primary care physicians would be able to distinguish a wart from something normal.  And if it is a wart, 80% of sexually active people have them anyway.

It sounds like your main issue is guilt over the encounter. Thus, I think your best course of action is to continue to work with your counselor.

[rusty75309]

Sorry...  I am not sure how to merge comments/questions into a single entry after I hit post...  In a related question to this one, how comfortable should I be with the accuracy of syphillis, gonorhea, chlamydia, hsv, and hiv tests that were completed 3 months after protected sex?  I stopped the intercourse before completion, and the girl performed an unprotected handjob after the condom was removed.  I had another round of tests 4 days after the event.  I got worried later and had them repeated.  The tests were urine tests and blood tests.  I know that there had been two hours since urinating (online info implied that was important) for the second round of urine tests.  Any help would be appreciated.