Sorry... I am not sure how to merge comments/questions into a single entry after I hit post... In a related question to this one, how comfortable should I be with the accuracy of syphillis, gonorhea, chlamydia, hsv, and hiv tests that were completed 3 months after protected sex? I stopped the intercourse before completion, and the girl performed an unprotected handjob after the condom was removed. I had another round of tests 4 days after the event. I got worried later and had them repeated. The tests were urine tests and blood tests. I know that there had been two hours since urinating (online info implied that was important) for the second round of urine tests. Any help would be appreciated.
There are no doctors on this forum. Your tests are conclusive. Herpes is usually recommended at 4 months for a conclusive result, but since you never really had a risk from protected sex, you can consider that conclusive.
Regarding the spot on your scrotum, you might want to get a second opinion from a doctor or nurse at an STD clinic, although I would think most primary care physicians would be able to distinguish a wart from something normal. And if it is a wart, 80% of sexually active people have them anyway.
It sounds like your main issue is guilt over the encounter. Thus, I think your best course of action is to continue to work with your counselor.
Thanks! I think I am moving on from the worries about physical fallout, but I am still struggling to deal with the emotional trouble that I am having. You are right, my main issue is guilt. I know that I didn't do anything illegal, but I can't believe I made such a stupid decision and had the encounter with such a high-risk person. I have never done anything remotely like that before.
It seems strange and may not be the goal or purpose of this forum, but trying to discuss my anxiety seems helpful...
I have moved on from worrying about having acquired any diseases, but every sniffle causes me a cringe of worry. I am worried that somehow my horrible decision will become known outside of this anonymous forum. I can't believe that I made such a bad decision, and (like everyone else I am sure) wish it could be undone.
When I first had my encounter, the girl said something that made me think she had been especially high-risk. In my guilt-induced irrationality, I assumed the worst. I have just now learned that I had no basis for this assumption.
The only positive that I have garnered from this experience is a profound understanding of how much I love my family and how much I will do to avoid ever risking that in the future. I just wish I hadn't gone through this experience to truly understand these things.
Correction....
In my original post, I mistakenly identified the risk factors of my sex partner. In my post-event guilt, I over-reacted to a comment the girl made and made an incorrect assessment. I now know that the only risk-factor that she had was multiple partners. I am not going to delude myself. There is nothing all that special about me, so I am sure she has had experiences similar to ours previously. But, I think the reduction in her overall risk status is worth sharing. I have had enough testing to convince me that I am ok, but it is good to get good news.