I have already posted a question to the experts... but I thought I would ask all of your opinion.
The facts:
- Been in a monogamous relationship for 4 years.
- 16 days ago, had protected/possibly unprotected vaginal, (condom slipped off, not sure if there was any contact afterward) and unprotected oral with another woman (a trusted friend who is also in a long term relationship)
- 5 Days after the encounter, my friend was tested (gon, chlamydia, hep B/C, HSV 1/2, syphilis, HIV). All came back negative.
- 10 days after the encounter, I was tested for all of the STDs above, all came back negative.
- This still leaves a possibility that her regular partner infected her with something recently (less than 6 weeks) that did not show up on her STD test.
My friend thinks it's very unlikely her partner has cheated (they live together but he travels for business)... but I am VERY worried that my friends regular partner cheated on her, gave her something less than 6 weeks ago, it didn't show up on her test and now I have transmitted something to my regular partner.
I check my penis every time I urinate to check for any changes in color/spots/etc. For the past 2 weeks, If I look closely, there is a slightly puffy area on the rim of my penis head, (about 2mm) that sometimes looks redder than the skin around it, sometimes looks white, sometimes a faint white spot in the middle, and sometimes is not visible. Sometimes, I can see two spots.
For the past 4 days, during bowel movements I have had definite, noticeable itching of the inside of the anus that slowly recedes ~10 minutes afterwards.
Since the encounter I have had increased sensitivity on the left side of the head, where I can feel my boxers brushing against it. My penis feels uncomfortable with mechanical stimulation (masturbation, fellatio). I can see thin lines running along the head, which i have not ever noticed before.
Could these symptoms be herpes? Syphillis? Any other std?
The anxiety and dread of destroying my relationship is agonizing. I wake up every day feeling like something has grown on my penis overnight.
Considering all my information and symptoms:
When can I go get another test to rule out any and all STDs?
Can I go at the 3 weeks mark????
Can I go before 6 weeks at all?
Do any of you have tips on how to calm the mind of these thoughts until I CAN get tested for all STDs???