Dear Grace, thanks for your response. Yes it makes sense.
I think my mistake was by not asking my question right. What i wanted to ask is if i need to do any testing because of any risk i had. Because there was no oral, anal or vaginal sex involved. but her skin touched my skin while giving me a full body massage. her butt, legs etc. The reason i want to know about testing is because i am in a relashionship with someone and i wanna make sure i am not putting her at risk.
From what i understand there is absolutely no risk with getting a handjob.
a million thanks!
you can contract hpv and herpes from just skin on skin contact but the risk of that is very low. the skin on non-genital areas is pretty thick and makes infection with them harder than it is on our soft, mucosal genital skin. make sense?
Dear Jessy, Can you please reply to my last post and close this discussion. Thank you
Hey Jessy, Welcome back.
I do understand that people (me too i guess) are asking a lot of silly questions and can imagine how annoying it is. In my case i am really not educated about std's and sincerely wanted to know the risks. I learned and will know better for the future.
I am not concerned about "genital to genital" but with "skin to skin", mostly herpes and HPV.
My question was what is the risk (all std's but especially herpes and HPV) if the girl only were a tiny thong and her body (butt, thighs, legs, stomach) touched my naked body while giving me a massage. there was no genital contact. i read in many posts about "skin to skin" and the information is not clear, i only want to clarify this , please.
Thanks for everything
Hey
Sorry to not have responded, I went around the U.S on a vacation and had a very good time.
It looks like grace answered your question. Yah I think you guys are asking too many nitty gritty, questions that are just becoming a bit silly. e.g. "what happens If i spill coffee on my penis etc."
You put yourself at risk for all STDs when you have insertive vagina/anal sex with someone.
Yes some are "genital to genital" contact but it's when having sex when there is genital to genital contact.
Wear condoms.
I would like to say and explain a few things.
I know that some people repeat posts or post things that annoy/upset the volunteer answerers, but in many other cases (yes, like me) we are simply not educated about std's and our questions are genuine and come from a good place trying to learn from our mistakes and know better.
Although to you they are "non sexual" (because you are knowledgeable), to me and i am sure to many others it is considered sexual because those are the things that took place while doing the sexual thing that brought us to post in the first place. No one ever put her tongue in my ear while shopping at walmart and no girl set on me with a thong while waiting on line at Barnes and nobles.
Regardless i do apologize if i got you upset for any reason! I know you are doing this without any pay and i sincerely appreciate it.
My main concern regarding the sitting on me with a thong while naked, and the reason i re-asked it is because i am very worried about it because on one hand everyone says NO RISK, and at the same time you read everywhere about "skin to skin contact". I promise i am not looking to bother or annoy anyone, i just want to know the accurate answer to this.
I thank you again for being there for me and so many others. Have a nice day
your repeated questions about non-sexual things is getting tedious to be honest. It's time for them to stop.
sucking on someone's nipples is not going to be a std risk.
a tongue in the ear also is not a risk.
as for someone in panties sitting on your body massaging your naked body, thongs aren't considered underwear in my book but anything more than that is going to make it incredibly unlikely you'd contract anything from them that is considered a std.
we call them sexually transmitted infections for a reason - it takes THAT sort of sexual, intimate contact to transmit them.
now please, enough of the endless questions.
grace
Hey Jessy,
when you have a chance can you please reply to the above questions. I keep checking every day but it seems as you are either away or didn't see the post. thanks!
Hey kdaily (or any other pro) , in your response to the following question, you said it is a NO RISK. my question is, isn't it a skin to skin contact? should i really see it as NO RISK? thanks
" 2. Female sitting on guy's body, with underwear and bra, while massaging his body. there is some body skin contact. "
And also how about female licking and sucking on guy's nipples. Any risk for any STD or any other disease?
I would like to know about the female licking a guy's ear and putting her tongue into his ear too. What if she had oral STDs?
I am taking the opportunity you didn't reply yet to ask something else.
Let's say the female was wearing underwear (thong) and i touched her butt & tights, and she set on me briefly, can any std and especially HPV and genital herpes be transmitted this way? thong was on at all times but there was general non genital skin to skin contact.
thanks a million
Hey James,
I need some more help,
Can any std be transmitted by a female licking a guy's ear and putting tongue inside the ear?
How about her kissing neck area?
:-) Thank U
I agree with what Dallasfan said about "You can`t tell by looking..!!!"
I think when I was 21, I gave my girlfriend (now ex) oral herpes. How do I know this? I'll have had this oral herpes HSV-1 since childhood. One day my ex once got an obvious herpes outbreak lesion on her lips and freaked out. I asked if she had ever gotten this before; and she was torn as she never did. It was a very hard thing for me to explain. But I never had an outbreak during out time together, but the funny thing was that after her outbreak --one day later MY outbreak occurred. I am sure that if i had an outbreak I wouldn't be kissing her, and she wouldn't have kissed me. We can't know for sure if indeed I infected her (as she claimed, which I came to believe), or if she had it before. But it just added up to something that wasn't suppose to happen or that I did not intend to do.
Since then I've dated many women who are oral herpes negative and continue to be oral herpes negative. The chance of infection for uclerative STDs is low, and is further reduced by condoms. But you just never really know by sight.
Visit the herpes forum; as I am not well versed in the herpes section of the book.
Thanks Dallasfan, but i really want Jessy to answer my question as a continuation to our discussion, no disrespect but he has a lot of experience and has a very good reputation.
Thanks for your questions. You have accurate information from the earlier respondents. You are expanding your original question .. To answer that., let me remind all readers that a significant percentage of people infected with the various STDs are asymptomatic. Therefore, Jesse`s recommendation for condom use is a wise one to follow. Hope this helps....You can`t tell by looking..!!!
Dear Jessy,
An std must be active (outbreak) for risk of transmission?
If one as an outbreak that can put me at risk, is it something i would be able to notice with my eyes, sores etc? talking about no vaginal/oral/anal contact but skin to skin like legs, butt, tights etc.
you know all happening :-)
1. I think you mom would agree that you should wash your pants in general.
(STDs cannot live on pants not a single one can thrive outside a warm cellular
medium).
2. NO risk.
Your very welcome!
:-) Jessy. you put a smile on my face, and that's great by itself
and you were absolutely right, i do have more questions, ;-)
1. Since std's can't pass through pants, do i need to wash my pants and make sure i am not touching it, or std's (none of them) can't exist/live on the pants?
2. Any risk at all if she played with her finger/s inside her vagina for 2-3 minutes and touched my legs shortly after?
thanks again!!!
... I wanted to wait a couple more hours before answering your concerns to see if you wanted to add another question. We don't think your annoying; we actually secretly get a kick out this one.
Okay, the answer to your questions are:
All of the above (in your initial post) are considered NO RISK for all STDs
There is NO RISK for all STDs from dry humping while you are wearing underwear and pants.
STDs can NOT pass through pants.
PS. If your going to have sex; condoms work.
I forgot one thing.
Is there any risk for any or all std's if i dry humped the girl, she was with a tiny thong and i was fully dresses with underwear and pants, is there any chance anything passed through my clothing?
I am all new to this things and dont know much, but i do want to know for next time. thank you
Kdaily, another quick question please,
are all of the above considered NO RISK, LOW RISK or something else?
thanks
I really appreciate your reply Kdaily.
for #3 "if there is not contact then no risk" - no butt to face contact at all, just over a pillow sham, but she rubbed/grinded on top and had her underwear on. am i completely safe from that?
regarding all eight concerns, is it sure i dont need any testing and it is all safe? sorry if i am annoying, i want to be sure and be worry free from this.
thanks a lot
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