it doesn't sound like herpes either to me.
if your regular provider can't figure it out, perhaps a dermatologist would be a good consult.
yes we both did the usual test, found out later it didnt include herpies but this doesnt sound or look like any of the photos of herpies photos i have seen
you need to be seen and get a proper work up done. These could be any number of things going on and we'd only be guessing.
did you and your partner have full std screenings done prior to becoming intimate together?
grace