No for both. Both of you would have shown more severe symptoms if you an std (other than herpes) within the 2 year time frame. The longest it has been heard of for a person to go asymptomatic is a year and a half. It may not be an std. Try to get to a doctor for testing to make sure.
But wait...you have HSV2. Herpes can release a clear, watery discharge. That may be your only indication of an active outbreak.
Thanks 2terrified for the answers.
Does the discharge have an odour on all of the above cases?
What I have is very thin and watery and is totally odourless
Nope. Sounds like it could very well be from the HSV2. Discharge in the others may have a slight odor.