Am I addicted??

[molly2525]

ok...please dont judge me....but i love pornos...I like masturbate at least once everyday to a porno....Im so turned on by it, its crazy...I picture me in it and i love it....I have a great boyfriends and he loves it that I like to watch porno..and recently we have started watching them together...and our sex has gotten alot better....its like a sauna in the room...lol...but is it abnormal for a women to be watching pornos as much i do??  and am i addicted??

[ABCD934]

It's not!Calm down by doing the abdominal breath.Im still masturhating everyday once and its normal.But please dont forget to do in the spare time.

[Fredspot]

My husband don't have sex with me at all for over a year. He takes care of himself with porn.  I gained weight because of a medical condition.  He says it's no big deal. But I feel cheated on and betrayed.  I don't know know what to do.  I am just heart broken

[Momo1409]

Yea. Sometimes with men tho it goes in one ear and our the other. Mine also does good orally I just wish it didn't get to him that I can't *** bc that's really the only reason it bothers me.

[Gotmoxy]

I know exactly what you mean. I have told him that I love him and I feel pressured with him sometimes. I've already explained to him also, that it helps to get off through the clitoris before intercourse, because it feels better inside, if that makes sense. He does a really good job orally, but I know what you mean if it takes too long it hurts. Me too

[Momo1409]

Mines always been this "numb" but I can usually get myself off farly quickly. And I wish I cld just say. Ok we are good let's have sex. But he won't let me unless I tell him its causing me pain. Bc sometimes it will if he or even I do it too long. And when we have sex where he's stimulated me its like my body gets confused as to where it shld have feeling and goes into overload!

But he just wants u to be happy. And wants him to be the one that makes u happy. And when u can't get off he's afraid ur not satisfied. I think u need to just let him know u still love him and that u just get urself of so ur not as stressed with him. Bc when I don't get off for a few days. Ik I take it out on him. So let him knw that ud like to try new stuff to see if there's a position that works better for u. Bc ik he wants u to be satified to.

Idk if any of that made sense.

[Gotmoxy]

That's good you understand how he feels. He is very insecure also. We seem to have alot in common also. It does take me awhile to ***, when he is doing oral. Sometimes, I just give up and tell him let's have sex. But when I *** first, sex feels so much better! So, I really want to *** first! When we first started having sex, I would *** quicker from oral. Sometimes I feel like I've lost some sensitivity down there. I think it's just me and stress, anxiety, his insecurities, etc.

[Momo1409]

See I don't. I'm pretty much him in ur situation. I'm afraid my lack of orgasm is causing him to not want to be with me. I'm also very insecure there. Ik we have a lot going on as well but I worry I'm not pleasing him and that why we don't have sex much.

Do u do know what u mean with pressure. It can sometimes take me a while when he's doing oral and after awhile I just wanna fake that too but then ik that wld just frustrate me even more.

Ik how ur man feels tho.

[Gotmoxy]

So, do you sometimes decline to have sex with him because you are bored with the same routine? I have been lately, mostly due to alot of stress right now, and I try to explain that to him. I also don't like the pressure I feel when we do foreplay before sex. I feel like I need to *** within a certain time or he will question me about whether he turns me on or not. Like last night we were mutually masturbating. He came first. I had not yet finished, so I proceded to continue. He began watching me, and then asked me why I was closing my eyes. He said "You don't think of me do you?" That turned me off completely. I got very angry. I said "I was watching you masturbate, while I was doing it!!" Sometimes I close my eyes when it feels good, just as you do!!" He's so insecure!! This is why I don't crave sex as much anymore. We have alot going on right now. We have two children, we have to register them for school this week, we have bills that need to be paid before they are overdue, we need to finish working on our apartment we just moved into, we are having issues with proper childcare, etc, etc.. So, you'd think that we could enjoy sex as a tension releaser, right? Well, not in my case! It adds to the stress!!

[Momo1409]

I have the EXACT same problem! I don't orgasm but I love the feeling of closeness and I want to spice things up bc I'm afraid it boring to him he says not but we use to have sex daily if nt more then once a day daily now we maybe do everyother. And I'm afraid he's getting bored. And when I start to feel he is I fake it. Just to make him feel better.

He told me hed love to watch me with another guy but I could never do it. And as for toys I tend to get a little to shy. We need to work on it. I'm afraid he's gonna get bored. Its been 2 yrs since we started dating. I'd hate for him to get bored. He's the love of my life and idk what I'd do without him.

He's very much a sex guy.:(

[Gotmoxy]

Yeah it's at the point where we argue about it now. I love him very much. I just like to spice things up. He is always horny and can do the same act a billion times! He went out and bought some toys for us, which was cool. But, then he got mad when I wanted him to watch me using them. He said it was like I didn't need him there at all. Most guys would jump at the chance to watch their girl masturbate. I know I like watching him. I dunno. I don't *** during intercourse either. It feels good though. But, it's not my fault I don't ***. He says that all his past girlfriends had no problem having orgasms during intercourse. I told him that 99% of them were probably faking it. That really degraded him sexually, but it's the truth. Only like 10% of women around the world can have an orgasm through intercourse, and it mostly involved the stimulation of the clitoris. I didn't mean to hurt him, but I wanted him to understand how the female genitalia works. I know I have faked it with other bfs in the past. The only reason girls fake it, is because they want to make their men feel good and feel like they are making them feel good. Also, so they aren't labeled a boring lay. Intercourse does feel good for me, and I want so badly to ***, but it's not easy or virtually impossible........

[Momo1409]

Maybe its the name! Bc I'm the same way! My bf and I have sex and altho I can't have an orgasm from sex he always finds a way to satisfy me but after I drop him off for work I have to masterbate. And I love porno's. We've also watch them together and it makes things a lot more fun! Exspecailly when I get ideas from the ones I watch without him! :)

[madisonnotApeace]

OMG!!! i have the same problem just dont do what i did (very dumly:_( ) i masterbated till the skin down the got VERY LOOSE!!! an it *****!!! soooooo.... no :-D

[Vance2335]

Well the only advice is to sit down and talk with him. Tell him what your fantasies are and how you want to spice things up. Tell him doing different things will excite you both. If he can not handle reasonable new things then maybe he is not right for you. And when I say reasonable if you want a 3-some and he doesn't then that I would consider unreasonable. But if you want to use a toy, do a different position well those are reasonable.

[Gotmoxy]

Abnormal? HELL NO!!!!!! I love watching porn. It bothers my bf a little if he is giving me oral and I'm watching a porn scene, because he thinks that he isn't turning me on and I need to resort to porn to climax. That's not true at all. Doing the same routine bores me, and I try to tell him that. I wanna try crazy new things with him. Things that I know he will be against doing. So, I don't even bring them up. I'm even afraid to watch those "different" situations, because he might think I'm disgusting. So, lately I haven't been that interested in having sex. It bothers him and he thinks I don't love him anymore. I love him very much. I'm just sick of the same thing: He goes down on me, and then we have sex. It takes me longer and longer to come orally now, because I'm bored, and it feels like it's planned. Nobody likes planned sex!!! I also feel the pressure to *** in a certain timeframe. If I don't, he thinks he doesn't turn me on. I'm also under alot of stress lately. Still, if he were to try new things with me and watch porn more regularly with me, I'd want to do it more often. Does anybody have any suggestions??? I know this is an old thread, but my new post should hopefully make it more noticeable.

[Dalubaba]

Gradually you lose interest in watching and resulting in lower libido. The the problem starts. It is difficult to keep such habits in abeyance and you fell prey to sever addiction.

[Vance2335]

It is abnormal...no. Is it common probably not but you are not alone. Many women will watch them daily. If you are confortable with it then it should not be a problem. Are you addicted...no. Addiction happens when it affects your daily life. So for example if you would rather watch porn then have sex with your bf or start watching porn several times a day and stop doing normal things with bf and friends.