Are they "really" attracted or just settling?

[twinkly84]

Seriously & honestly speaking....this is posed to men here....

Are men "really" attracted to fat/obese women here? What is considered the size number of "really fat"?

Is it like over size 20 (in American sizes)?

Do you think these men really "love" these women or are they only just hung-up in some weird, kinky fetish or just simply "settling" b/c this women will have them & they don't want to be left alone?

I really, really believe as  full-figured woman myself that men only settle for us and/or have some weird fetish. I don't see how someone over size 20 is sexy? How is that possible? I mean, I look at my own rolls & globbular weight. I'm disgusting. I am not even talking about my body either as I'm working intensely on it & dieting like mad. I'm even talking about the ugliness & puffiness in my facial structure too. These don't even include clothes.

Seriously, think about it....sexy clothes aren't meant for over size 20....what do you think? Confidence or not.... it's not attractive or sexy or cute.

I'd like to know what real, honest men think....sexiness? what is obese?

[narla]

  I weigh 127kg my husband weighs 75kg,I was 65 to 70 kg when we got married in 1980,Believe me he has no problem having sex with me.If I'm naked and he walks in the room he can be ready in seconds,yes he fell in love with a thin girl but he is still just as much in love with the obese girl.I am going to the gym doing up to 8 sessions a week I have lost 12 kg but that's for my health not his pleasure. So it shows as long as you love each other wanting to have sex with a big woman does not mean you have a fetish.

[twinkly84]

How fat in size numbers is it then, to be considered NOT sexy, I would say (& I'm talking about myself personally too) that over size 22 in US terms in pants, over size 2X maximum in tops.

What does the general consensus think?

Do you believe then, if a man finds a woman over size 22 sexy, that he is only SETTLING for her or just has some weird, kinky, unaccepted fetish?

[gagootza]

you will  learn that whats on the cover means nothing.its whats inside the cover that really counts.a women /man may be big on the outside but what really attracts the other partner is their inner self.if they have a heart of gold they can get any body they want regardless of how they look on the outside

[tinydreams22]

I'm not a guy - but I think if you can be confident in wearing something sexy then you should go for it! I've met plenty of guys who actually prefer heavier women and on the other hand, I've met guys who steer clear. It all depends on the guy.

[Vance2335]

Your post is very off base. My wife is a larger size, not 20 but in the higher teens and I find her very attractive. I get excited when she wears something sexy to bed. I encourage it.

Here is the deal, I found her face to be very very attractive, then i got to know who she was and fell in love. Just because she is large means nothing.