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Does come leak out of the vagina after having sex?
My boyfriend and I are trying to concieve so after we had sex I stayed laying down. When I stood up none of his come leaked out of me...not even a little bit.
Is this normal?
I feel like something should come out...you know, because of the whole gravity thing, lol.
Is this normal?
I feel like something should come out...you know, because of the whole gravity thing, lol.
Hi Brianna5593, I'm remar's daughter, and she had me the day after she turned 16. My dad was 19, they were married, and I was wanted. But it changed their lives at such a young age, and as much as they worked their butts off, never went on any kind of government assistance, never had 'babysitters' (just my grandma or aunt) paid for me to go to a private school, and tried to give me every opportunity to have a 'good' life, it was, and is, a constant struggle.
I'm 33, almost 34, coming up on one year sober. My mom had just lost her dad, cousin and grandma by age 15, my dad's family had been split up in the years leading up to them getting together, and I think there were many complicated reasons that they got so serious so young. She wasn't trying to get pregnant yet, but it happened, and as I said they wanted a family. My dad didn't know how to be a 'good' father, and still doesn't really. My mom has had to deal with issues like anxiety and depression, and my dad is an alcoholic, and they were trying to raise me while dealing with their own problems. I became a drunk by the time I was 12, tried to commit suicide at 12 and 13 after being raped by my aunts friends, and again at 31 after suffering through a verbally abusive relationship. Can you imagine having a child, who will always be a target in this crazy world, who ends up having medical or mental health issues? Do you know how incredibly expensive it is to raise a child? As I said my parents worked and my mom slept when I slept, which was rare for the first ten months. Never slept though the night, so you can imagine how tired she was. I was healthy or so they thought until I got into my teens. My parents have been together for 34 years, and a lot of the time they have struggled. They have spilt up and almost divorced, but they are committed to their family, and the vows they took. Is this guy ready to be in this with you for at least the next 18 years? If not, you are setting this innocent kid up for challenges that are unnecessary. Are you guys clean? My dad drank, but became a full blown alcoholic in his 20's, dealing with the pressure of running a business, making house payments, trying and failing at times to keep utilities on. My mom developed an anxiety disorder and I spent a LOT of time alone as a kid. I ended up being an only child. I'm a so called miracle because my mom was unable to get pregnant by the time she was about 18. I consider myself very lucky that I didn't have a sibling, they had a hard enough time with just me. They loved me, and each other, and it STILL was not enough to keep my life from being incredibly difficult. I've been in therapy on and off for years. I choose not to have kids because I knew how hard it was, and i didn't want to take the chance it might be screwed up like me, or my mom, or dad, or generations of my family. I used to scream at my dad "I didn't ASK to be here!" when times were tough. Do you know if you are psychologically fit to take on the responsibility of a human being, that may grow to be defiant, tell you they hate you, maybe try to hurt themselves or take them selves out of the situation like I did? You can not imagine how hard life has been for my parents, especially my mother who is a freaking saint, due to the fact that they had me too young. They both had vehicles, jobs, a HOUSE, not an apartment, my dad actually ran a business, they were EXTREMELY mature for their age. My dad is borderline genius, his father worked for NASA. I'm a pretty smart cookie myself. After dropping out of high school at 15, I went back to college in my 20's and got a degree in Communication, and graduated with honors. I am smart enough to know, as is my 36 year old live in boyfriend, that WE are not fit to bring a kid into this world. It has been hard enough getting, and keeping our own lives on track. We are so broke and that will change soon due to our work situations, but we would not be making it if we had another mouth to feed. As broke as we've been, I've refused government assistance. I don't think that should even enter someone's mind as a fall back plan if they are thinking about having a kid.
If you had taken a college level course about Human Sexuality, like I did, you would know more about Anatomy and Physiology and how a woman's body is designed (there is a shelf inside the vagina to keep semen in place for a period of time to help the sperm have a chance) and you would know that men can, and do, fake. Lola_mama was right on with that one. I can tell you with certainty that I know guys who have done it, because they felt bad that they weren't into it, the situation, or the girl whether it be emotionally or physically. I also know guys who were talked into having a kid, and trust me, they grow to resent the woman. Come up with a list of reasons why you think the two of you are fit to be responsible for another human being, and ask around about the possible outcomes. My 23 year old cousin has his 3rd kid on the way, and this one was a trick by the ex to get her pregnant. He is back together with the mother of his first two babies, and they struggle. They had their daughter at 18. She was born around 5 months, and actually lived! She was 1lb 6oz, and they spent months at the hospital, willing her to live and be 'normal'. She is, and it's a miracle. But she has medical problems because she was a premie. It happens ALL the time! They did nothing wrong, and we had no reason to think there would be anything unusual about the pregnancy. But things come up. What if the baby is autistic? Do you drink or smoke, does your boyfriend? Good grief, I need to write a book, get a talk show and join Planned Parenthood in the fight to educate young people about sex, pregnancy, parenting, etc. Sorry to go on and on, but I, and my mom, have a really hard time keeping our mouths closed when we see young people so casually considering, or consciously TRYING to bring a baby int this world. I strongly recommend that you rethink this. The statistics on teen moms having another birth within a short period of time following the first birth, and ending up on some form of government assistance (somewhere around 75% within 5 years of giving birth) are really disturbing. I don't think any 18 year old is ready for ALL that comes with pregnancy and birth. Do this kid a favor and wait! Give it a fighting chance of having a life that isn't complicated with even more difficulties due to having parents that were just too young! Good luck girl!
I'm 33, almost 34, coming up on one year sober. My mom had just lost her dad, cousin and grandma by age 15, my dad's family had been split up in the years leading up to them getting together, and I think there were many complicated reasons that they got so serious so young. She wasn't trying to get pregnant yet, but it happened, and as I said they wanted a family. My dad didn't know how to be a 'good' father, and still doesn't really. My mom has had to deal with issues like anxiety and depression, and my dad is an alcoholic, and they were trying to raise me while dealing with their own problems. I became a drunk by the time I was 12, tried to commit suicide at 12 and 13 after being raped by my aunts friends, and again at 31 after suffering through a verbally abusive relationship. Can you imagine having a child, who will always be a target in this crazy world, who ends up having medical or mental health issues? Do you know how incredibly expensive it is to raise a child? As I said my parents worked and my mom slept when I slept, which was rare for the first ten months. Never slept though the night, so you can imagine how tired she was. I was healthy or so they thought until I got into my teens. My parents have been together for 34 years, and a lot of the time they have struggled. They have spilt up and almost divorced, but they are committed to their family, and the vows they took. Is this guy ready to be in this with you for at least the next 18 years? If not, you are setting this innocent kid up for challenges that are unnecessary. Are you guys clean? My dad drank, but became a full blown alcoholic in his 20's, dealing with the pressure of running a business, making house payments, trying and failing at times to keep utilities on. My mom developed an anxiety disorder and I spent a LOT of time alone as a kid. I ended up being an only child. I'm a so called miracle because my mom was unable to get pregnant by the time she was about 18. I consider myself very lucky that I didn't have a sibling, they had a hard enough time with just me. They loved me, and each other, and it STILL was not enough to keep my life from being incredibly difficult. I've been in therapy on and off for years. I choose not to have kids because I knew how hard it was, and i didn't want to take the chance it might be screwed up like me, or my mom, or dad, or generations of my family. I used to scream at my dad "I didn't ASK to be here!" when times were tough. Do you know if you are psychologically fit to take on the responsibility of a human being, that may grow to be defiant, tell you they hate you, maybe try to hurt themselves or take them selves out of the situation like I did? You can not imagine how hard life has been for my parents, especially my mother who is a freaking saint, due to the fact that they had me too young. They both had vehicles, jobs, a HOUSE, not an apartment, my dad actually ran a business, they were EXTREMELY mature for their age. My dad is borderline genius, his father worked for NASA. I'm a pretty smart cookie myself. After dropping out of high school at 15, I went back to college in my 20's and got a degree in Communication, and graduated with honors. I am smart enough to know, as is my 36 year old live in boyfriend, that WE are not fit to bring a kid into this world. It has been hard enough getting, and keeping our own lives on track. We are so broke and that will change soon due to our work situations, but we would not be making it if we had another mouth to feed. As broke as we've been, I've refused government assistance. I don't think that should even enter someone's mind as a fall back plan if they are thinking about having a kid.
If you had taken a college level course about Human Sexuality, like I did, you would know more about Anatomy and Physiology and how a woman's body is designed (there is a shelf inside the vagina to keep semen in place for a period of time to help the sperm have a chance) and you would know that men can, and do, fake. Lola_mama was right on with that one. I can tell you with certainty that I know guys who have done it, because they felt bad that they weren't into it, the situation, or the girl whether it be emotionally or physically. I also know guys who were talked into having a kid, and trust me, they grow to resent the woman. Come up with a list of reasons why you think the two of you are fit to be responsible for another human being, and ask around about the possible outcomes. My 23 year old cousin has his 3rd kid on the way, and this one was a trick by the ex to get her pregnant. He is back together with the mother of his first two babies, and they struggle. They had their daughter at 18. She was born around 5 months, and actually lived! She was 1lb 6oz, and they spent months at the hospital, willing her to live and be 'normal'. She is, and it's a miracle. But she has medical problems because she was a premie. It happens ALL the time! They did nothing wrong, and we had no reason to think there would be anything unusual about the pregnancy. But things come up. What if the baby is autistic? Do you drink or smoke, does your boyfriend? Good grief, I need to write a book, get a talk show and join Planned Parenthood in the fight to educate young people about sex, pregnancy, parenting, etc. Sorry to go on and on, but I, and my mom, have a really hard time keeping our mouths closed when we see young people so casually considering, or consciously TRYING to bring a baby int this world. I strongly recommend that you rethink this. The statistics on teen moms having another birth within a short period of time following the first birth, and ending up on some form of government assistance (somewhere around 75% within 5 years of giving birth) are really disturbing. I don't think any 18 year old is ready for ALL that comes with pregnancy and birth. Do this kid a favor and wait! Give it a fighting chance of having a life that isn't complicated with even more difficulties due to having parents that were just too young! Good luck girl!
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I was actually kind of thinking something along those lines too Lola_mama. She is only 18, not married and trying to get pregnant. Maybe the boyfriend is'nt ready to be a father. Young people just have no idea what a huge responsibility being a parent is.
To the original poster. Do you have any idea what it takes to raise a child? Do you have a home of your own, a car, finished school, money in the bank, insurance for the baby, a job?
Yes, I'm trying to tell you what it's like and trying to make you think about this life changing decision. Please think twice. You have your whole life ahead of you but once you have a baby your life is dedicated to the needs of that child.
To the original poster. Do you have any idea what it takes to raise a child? Do you have a home of your own, a car, finished school, money in the bank, insurance for the baby, a job?
Yes, I'm trying to tell you what it's like and trying to make you think about this life changing decision. Please think twice. You have your whole life ahead of you but once you have a baby your life is dedicated to the needs of that child.
Every man's ejaculate is different, which means some guys will have thicker kind, and some will have thinner. Have you ever seen his before? If he was really deep inside you, and has a thicker consistency going on, I could see how it might not necessarily spill out, especially if you laid down for quite a while afterwards.
One thing I'm hesitant to bring up because I don't want you to be insulted or think I'm saying this is what's actually happening or anything, because I certainly don't know anything about your relationship w/ your bf, but I'm gonna throw something out there that did enter my mind... Are you positive that he really wants to have a baby right now? I ask this because if he doesn't want to try to conceive right now, but didn't want to hurt your feelings or have to get in a big argument about it, there is the possibility that he faked an orgasm to make you think he ejaculated in you, when he really didn't. I am totally NOT saying this is the case, or even that I think it is the case, but the thought did pop into my head, so I figured I'd toss it out there for you to consider. You decide how much weight to give it, because YOU are the one who knows him and what kind of person he truly is. I'm sure he didn't do that, but it's something to at least consider, and if it's totally outlandish, just throw it out, and move on! Lol ; ) Good luck on your baby making journey! Have fun! ; )
One thing I'm hesitant to bring up because I don't want you to be insulted or think I'm saying this is what's actually happening or anything, because I certainly don't know anything about your relationship w/ your bf, but I'm gonna throw something out there that did enter my mind... Are you positive that he really wants to have a baby right now? I ask this because if he doesn't want to try to conceive right now, but didn't want to hurt your feelings or have to get in a big argument about it, there is the possibility that he faked an orgasm to make you think he ejaculated in you, when he really didn't. I am totally NOT saying this is the case, or even that I think it is the case, but the thought did pop into my head, so I figured I'd toss it out there for you to consider. You decide how much weight to give it, because YOU are the one who knows him and what kind of person he truly is. I'm sure he didn't do that, but it's something to at least consider, and if it's totally outlandish, just throw it out, and move on! Lol ; ) Good luck on your baby making journey! Have fun! ; )
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