sex

[cottonball]

i am fifteen years and my boyfriend is going to be sixteen soon, i want to give him sex as a gift but not in front anal sex to be safer, is it ok?

[frog83flys]

Sex makes things really complicated. I lost my virginity when I was 16 to a guy that I had been with for 3 years. He cheated on me, left me, got another girl pregnant, the whole works. 15 is really young and I have to admit I wish I would have waited. I have a few friends that waited until they were 24 to have sex, and I respect them a lot. I am not saying that you are not mature enough, but it is good to wait. Even if you think he loves you and you love him, things always change. And sex adds tons of problems if it happens too soon.

[Judy246]

You are not ready for the responsibility that comes with being sexually active. First, you have to think about unprotected sex and that can result in a life changing unwanted pregnancy and also, at your age, your body is not ready for an accidental pregnancy, potential STD, HIV and so many other can of worms that come with being sexually active. Usually, when a guy get's that "gift"...he will take it and run and will avoid you like a plague, so my advice is don't do it! You should be focusing on school, making the grade, developing good friendships. It's ok to have a b/f, but at your age you are not ready for the responsibilities that come with having sex and he can go to jail for underage rape! You are underage and your parents can put him in jail, so spare yourself the heart ache, pain, unwanted pregnancy, STD's, HIV and being dump afterwards and too much drama for such a young girl. It's also time for him to think with his head on his shoulders and respect you and life has a way of just falling into place so DON'T DO IT!  Save that precious gift for the right time and man, but not at 14-15. Judy

[Dalubaba]

If he really loves you, he will refuse to take your virginity, even if you ask him.
Just one gift will not suffice you both. ONce the ice is broken, things will snoball and you will be trapped.
Once you do anal,you are bound to fo vaginal, on the the same day.Beare!

[wickedGuy]

dont give ur virginity to him :) im also a guy, if he trully loves you he wont ask that thing  and, i swear , just be with him during his birthday and make  fun trip instead of doing sex :) do night swiming :) ofcourse with other friends so it would be fun :P

hehe

[Mistakeguy789]

I couldn't agree more with the previous posters.  15 years old and giving it up?  Why?  Wouldn't you like to be able to tell your husband that you saved yourself for him?  Wait 3 more years and if you are still dating then give him the honeymoon night hes waited for.  Love is NOT about sex.  

[rmom10]

Honey please take it from someone who lost there virginity at 15 i felt the same way you did an he left me a few months later the thing is i really didnt want to give it up he talked me into it if i had it to redo i would have kept my virginity make a card for him if you have to write a poem just dont give it up i know you hear how your virginity is special an blah blah blah well trust me everyone is right its something you will never get back an just cause you split it isnt your fault just think long an hard if anything go to an older sibling or cousin who has made a lot of good decisions an think about it i had this talk with my 13 year old niece an she has thanked me ever since

[tejodouro]

You do not give sex as a birthday gift at the age of 15. Take care of yourself and your future.  As the other reply said" you could get PREGNANT.   You are very young to have sex.  I am sure that if he loves you, he will be happy with a homemade birthday card and a dozen of homemade cupcakes. Or have your family invite him over for dinner.  Not sex:  Do not grow up so fast.

[cottonball]

ok thnx i'll rethink it

[michelle8118]

hey you wanna give your boyfriend your vaginity to your boyfriend it is something really big to think about because when you guys brake up and you loved him so much you probley would have second thoughts about it and your only 15 years old and it a big responsibility and your really young.

[cottonball]

i know its a big responsibility an its not just like a gift i want to give him because i dont know what else to give him we've been together for almost three years i just feel certain about him i love him until death and if anything is to happen i won't regret it, and i'll know its my fault. but i trust him an he takes care of me. i am not that nieve to not use a condom, of course i was going to use one, but he doesn't know he told me that he doesn't want to force me to do something i dont want to do, an he told me that when it is to happen it would happen an to stop planning it also.
he knows i'm scared cause i have never done it before, an so he is patient he doesn't talk about it unless i bring it up.he's never forced me to do anything. i just love him and trust him enough, even if things go horribly wrong in my soul i know that i did this for me......

[penswriter]

sex is a big responsibility. whether it's vaginal or anal sex. don't give it up just b/c you want to make him happy or that's all you can give him as a gift. get him a card or gift card instead and wait. 15 is VERY young to become sexually active.

if you're set on it get on some form of b/c first (even if it's anal sex get on b/c....girls have gotten pregnant in weirder ways...if he would ejaculate and the semen gets near the vaginal opening you can end up pregnant) and ALWAYS use a condom. you should also discuss this with an adult such as your parents, a counselor or a doctor.