I'm 24 years old and I've seen a problem the last few months. My penis isn't hard as before like when I was younger. Also when am watching porn nothing happens, I don't turn on. It's like am watching something which I don't care abou it, just to pass my time. When am with my girl I do turn on but it isn't hard as it should be. Sometimes while having sex, it goes down without cumming. I used to masturbate once a day but now I stopped it for 6 days and still going to check if I would be stronger again. Any suggestions please? I'm very anxious.
For example, if you feel like watching porn for a while, you can watch it and if you get aroused, you do not need to masturbate and have orgasm if you do not feel a strong urge. Or you can get aroused, masturbate a bit and then interrupt it. I would say that it can help if you take things in a more "playful" way, you can tease yourself or your girlfriend can tease you or arouse you, but do not rush for orgasm immediately. Take your time and just enjoy what can be enjoyed, or you can try to accummulate the tension and arousal more before entering the final stage / orgasm.
When making love with your girlfriend, do not forget all kinds of non-coital sexual activites, you can stimulate her orally, manually and bring pleasure and satisfaction to her also in this way. Enjoy these moments without feeling the necessity to get a hard erection or orgasm.
So you can try to enjoy sexual arousal without orgasm for some time.
It is possible that these problems will disappear after some time, it can be influenced also by psychological factors, such as stress, negative feelings, boredom etc... Hopefully, you will soon be in the best frame of mind when it comes to sex.
If there is any physiological or heatlh reason for these complications, then only a qualified doctor can check it and suggest the most suitable treatment.
In general, if you have spontaneous erections during sleep or in the morning (before or when you wake up), then it is probably not a physical problem.
Kind regards,
severin