Boyfriend Doesn't *** During Sex

[Star487]

Hi, I'm 21 and my boyfriend is also 21. We have been together for about four months, its a new relationship. We were both virgins when we both had sex with each other. But the problem is everytime we have sex he doesn't ***. He gets hard and I get wet but nothing happens. He can *** when jacking off but not when we are having sex. He also says he doesn't feel himself when he's inside me. He says the first min he does but after that he doesn't. I need help understanding this and a solution to this problem before we break up. I like he alot and he likes me but we need to solve this as soon as we can. Please help, anyone.

[Star487]

Thank you guys for your comments. They are very helpful! I told him what you guys are saying and we will for sure be using some of the awesome advice that was given. Thanks :)

[Star487]

Wow thanks you guys. You both are really helpful. I will take what both of you guys said and put them into action. We do really like each other and when we have sex it feels amazing to me but I feel bad because he doesn't really enjoy it. The other night was a really good night for us, hope we have more lol I know we can work this out. Our relationship is great its just this one thing that is holding us back and I will do whatever to break this.

[Star487]

Wow thanks you guys. You both are really helpful. I will take what both of you guys said and put them into action. We do really like each other and when we have sex it feels amazing to me but I feel bad because he doesn't really enjoy it. The other night was a really good night for us, hope we have more lol I know we can work this out. Our relationship is great its just this one thing that is holding us back and I will do whatever to break this.

[NOHARD]

Hi Star First hes putting pressure on you to satisfy his lacking in not being able to ejeculate, and by doing this your not enjoying the act of love.
Second if talking dirty does not sit well with, tell him so a forget about it, for some women talking dirty comes naturaly, but from what your its not.
For me, I think you need to find a new lover, somebody how appreciates you as your are, that way your have a better love/sex life.
Good Luck

[dutchwalder]

.remember, sex is fun and intense. dont try to force. dont focus so much on one thing. be comfortable in tbe bedroom.  good luck

[NOHARD]

hi Star Then he does not understand what he is doing to his body and mind, these things are all connected, and tell him if he does not take this break then he will naever become a porn star, tell him porn stars dont watch porn they just act in them.
Good Luck

[Star487]

To dutchwalder, thank you for your comment.,  He says he wants me to do all of that and I do the best I can. Its just I'm really shy and before him I was a virgin. But I will try my very best. To Nohard, thank you also. I ask him to stop everything you said but he said after four days he starts getting depressed and needing sex and jacking off. He watch crazy porn and want me to be a pornstar in bed but he needs to understand that I'm completely new to this so its so weird when I try to talk dirty to him.

[NOHARD]

Hi Star, I think you guy has been masturbating to much, there a thing, the brain remembers what the hand has done and being inside you is not his hand, thats why he fills nothing, and behind that sounds like hes been rough masturbating, and his p***s is only used to that, tell him he needs to an 8 week break from masturbating and any forms of sex, sad for you then, but this should reboot his system, and get him back in the game, with his feeling back, do you know if he gets nocternal erections or morning woods, as these would be signs hes ok if not then at the end of the 8 weeks these should be back and working, but if he watchs porn he needs to cut that out as well, lost his porn sites, get rid of any downloads and throw away any discs, this will get his mind working on you.
Good Luck

[dutchwalder]

talk dirty to him, whisper in his ear , ** ,look at him while playing with his ballz,   hand job. tell him how you want him to *** for you and how much you like his .... ( watch a porno for educational purpose and watch and listen what girls do during the ** or sex. look for high rated videos bcs there is a lot of BAD PORN out there too). there is nothing wrong with you perse but it is a team sport. do you climax with him? sex is easy. great sex takes some practice and knowing what ur partner likes. if this doesnt work. stop mid sex and ask him (seductively) what do u want me to do to pleasure you. i am at your service to make you ***. good luck. be aggressive let him know what u want

this is coming from a guy who has gone through this with a girl.

ps: he shouldn't say he cant feel him self inside u... sounds more like a small **** than big vag to. really good position for that missionary with your legs next to your head.

[Star487]

Thank you both for your comments. To New Mommy to be, yea I've been on top most times and I think he's scared of not Cumming or even getting me pregnant. I don't like he enjoys it to much because he says he doesn't feel anything during sex. And to RockRose you have very good reasons as to why this may be happening but I asked him to stop jacking off and only try cumming with me. He did for about four days we had sex but it didn't work so now he's back jacking off. This makes me so sad.

[RockRose]

There could be a lot going on here.

Is he masturbating to porn a lot?  That will rob him of his sensitivity for regular  sex.  

Is he on antidepressants or other meds that can interfere with his sexual ability?

The other thought is he may have a low libido threshold.  

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

Im sorry you're going thru this, especially since you two have waited long I know you don't want to break up and start all over again. Maybe try different position? Have you tryed on top. Is he scared? I'm not sure really what the problem Is, does he enjoy it? Best of luck to you