When my husband and I first met, he seemed to be a wonderful lover, Then a couple of things happened, and I didn't think too much about it, He questioned me about past experiences ( my first husband had died ) and I told him that I felt uncomfortable discussing that.
At the time of our courtship,he moved into my home. He was working 10-12 hour days, and was exhausted upon returning home. I didn't think too much about this at first,realizing that not every man would have the sexual apitite of my first husband ( who liked relations 4-5 times a week...well into our 29 yrs marriage ...which was fine with me.
My second husband and I have now been married for three years, and he hasn't even had sex...not even on our wedding night. I thought he was kidding when he told me that his Grandma "S" stopped having sex at age "50"...never in a million years did I think that he was serious ....that when I turned 50 within a few months of our wedding, that he meant that.
I really want to be loved. I am never told I look nice, ( I am told that I am very attractive ) ....he never kisses me ...never holds me. He lost his job almost 2 1/2 yrs ago, and has been drinking a great deal ever since. I told him prior to our marriage that drinking scared me ( I grew up in a alcholic home)
This man does not hit me...or start arguements (sp) however, he at times likes to tell me when I am wrong...which is getting more and MORE frequent.
IT is getting harder and harder to get out of bed every day. I also have a chronic illness. I pay all the household bills as well....
Please help....What should I do ? This man has also witheld information about his daughter...( her name etc. and his grand children's names.
I am sure that you probably are going to tell me I am a nut case for staying in this relationship.....but I really need help. My first husband was wonderful...WE never ever fought...that's the truth. Every friend I had envied me...wanted my first hubby ! !
Again, please help....