Need Advice on what to do..

[greeneyedgirl747]

Hey. i was at my boyfriends house by myself and saw his Ipad laying on the bed. i wasn't trying to be nosy but i clicked safari and he had a few adult networking profiles pulled up. he had created accounts. one of the adult websites was made for finding "sexy singles around where you live".  i looked on the profile (he was still logged in) and it said he had created it yestrday. ever since then, its bothered me to the point where im mad about it. i didnt tell him i found out. even if i did i wouldnt know how to. i dont know what to do. should i confront him about it & ask why he created the profile? was it specifically to find singles in the same city as him, or just to look at the porn? i know its natural to look at porn, even though i dont do it myself. i am just curious if he did it because hes not attracted to me anymore. im average size. i think im very pretty, so does everyone else. im just puzzled. please comment and tell what i should do.

[sitthu]

never get tensed for this.boys often make this type of profile for enjoyment but that doesnt mean its getting wrong between you and him.so just take it easy.its my personal experience.i often do the same bt creating a profile at porn sites doesnt decrease my love for my girlfriend.so be calm and if possible stop him from these and make him concentrate on ur feelings for each other.

[stoney1215]

i have a somewhat different view i figure i could offer . im not saying this is the case with him this is just from my experience .
my wife and i are swingers . our preference is mfm threesomes . we belong to a few dating sites and have been amazed at what goes on . there has been way too many to count times where i have chatted with a guy , gotten to know him through numerous emails . went through our wants and needs , likes and dislikes , expectations etc . exchanged text messages and talked on the phone . after finally agreeing to let the guy join us we make a date . in an estimated 40% of the time i cant get in touch with the guy the day of or the guy is a no show .
we have come to believe that for many men the excitement of the process and the talking and the winning the lottery is what they want . not the actual sex and cheating on their spouse .
like i said im not saying this is the case for him , im just giving your our experience . hope everything works out . and just one piece of advice . if you think your spouse is or even would cheat on you then you dont trust him . if you dont trust him why would you want to be with him .

[greeneyedgirl747]

me & my boyfriend have a very good relationship but not as good as i thought when i found out about his secret porn profile. i love him to death & couldnt imagine my life without him but i have thought about it and i dont know if i could love someone that wants to keep secrets like this. ive imagined myself marrying him. having an after high school life with him. we're both 17 years of age. we we're each others first. im his first serious relationship. i can see why he wants to see if theres something else out there but i dont agree with it while hes in a relationship with me.

[greeneyedgirl747]

thank you! ive been thinking about this alot and i dont believe i am going to confront him about it. i think @love_a_challenge is right about him making something up if i confront him. i do believe in honesty but honestly, if hes keeping this from me, hes not being honest. so why should i?

[greeneyedgirl747]

good idea! I will try this! i will just have to rememeber his profile username..

[love_a_challenge]

I gave my suggestion because nowadays there are so much different things you can do a social website such as play games. If she confront him directly he will simply and make up something and then she will never know the real truth. I agree about the honesty policy thing thang tho. I'm just saying if I saw my girl set up an account on a single datings site I'm going to set up one too and send anyonymous messages to see if she respond back saying she single or not. That's the most honest answer I can get. And THEN I will confront her.

[Nco]

Girl, hi,  the decision lies with you.  It depends if you know who you are.  ask yourself these questions, Do I love myself to this or not? Am I satisfied on this relationship? remember you cannot lie to yourself ok, Do I really want this relationship? where am I going with this relationship? Is it playing with my feelings, or is it marraige? It really depends on the power that you possess inside the power of decision which I know you have.  so don't be afraid to take some decisions which will lead you to have a good life and a clear mind.  It helps to plan what type of a relationship you want, check if you will be able to take some dissapointments and what can you take.
ta NCO

[frostyx]

I'm not so sure about the 'not confronting him directly'....You have a right as a woman to have a relationship based on honesty with someone who cares about you.  He has set up a profile looking for single women in his area...that kind of says it all really. Listen to your gut instinct and ask hm why he has done this.....Good luck hun, I hope it works out.

frostyx

[love_a_challenge]

I wouldn't confront him directly. Set up an anonymous profile yourself on the same site and send him messages to see if he is trying to meet other women. Come back here with an update. I'm curious...