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Need help have female orgasm
I have never had an orgasm. Ever. And other women tell me to touch myself, but that absolutely disgusts me. There are some things I just won't do. They say it is natural, but it isn't. It's perverted. What else can I try that isn't so gross?
Hi Velvet, Ok I'm not going to lecture you on masturbating, but if you google dobson and ross, on here you will find all you want and why and how to, its run by Dr Betty Dobson, she takes life on orgam at a time, she runs life class's for women how like want to orgasm, on her site you find all the info you need, you can even download vids at a small cost, for a day week month, on how to, if not you could even contact her for any help you need.
But keep this as a thought, some women go through life and never have an orgasm.
Good Luck
But keep this as a thought, some women go through life and never have an orgasm.
Good Luck
Greetings! I agree with you that masterbation is gross. The anatomy of the orgasm is located in the brain pleasure center (Hypothalamus). This is where memory of good things are stored. The way a nice summer breeze feels, or how you really enjoy chocolate/cherry icecream, etc. If you have never experienced an orgasm you have nothing in the Hypothalamus stored for that type of pleasure. You are not alone, but because you are not alone does not mean you and others need to suffer. I do not need answers but if we were good friends having this privat conversation, things I would ask are....
What is your idea of intimacy? Obviously it is with someone you love and not a solo act, but have you taken time to analize what you think you would like when making love with your partner? Have you had a partner and were able to try your thoughts out with them? How does your partner respond to you and what you need for intimacy? Are they attentive and take the time you need and do what you ask of them. Basically it is very simple and kind of like reading...you start out shy and don't want to read out loud (you don't want to tell your partner what to do for many reasons), then you read a line or two (you and your partner listen lovingly to each others requests and needs and are always patient), with practice soon your reading chapters (after a while you don't have to repeat what you like and soon you move onto exploring each other), then before you know it your finishing the whole book (...yes, you have reached orgasm).
OK, maybe thats not the answer your looking for. First because you are not for masterbation you need to have a partner to complete orgasm. I am not for masterbation and I abstain. I am heterosexual but like to call myself A-sexual. I am not for men or for women. I simply have no time for sex right now. My life is very busy and fulfilling. BUT, when I did have a boyfriend I was able to reach the most ecclesiastical orgasms...but don't get me wrong...Its not like all the crap like they show on TV. That screaming and pushing all the stuff off the counter is for TV only. I don't know anyone who has EVER done that.
Science depicts that masterbation IS natural. You will see humans exploring their own bodies as babies. Babies do not mean to reach an orgasm, they are exploring and learning, they do what makes them feel good and avoid what hurts them.
This is such a deep answer I am not doing a good job at all. You are not alone. One of my friends told me, and she has been married 3 times with 2 children, that she has never had an orgasm. I was shocked. BUT her life has not been ideal. She has had a hard life to put it simply and her husbands do their business and then its over.
Other than needing the right partner, I believe it is in the brain. Whether or not one is in menopause (hormone imbalance), the idea/opinion of sex prior to the actual act, the environment, ones health (are you feeling weak or a little off), and a huge one is spiritual beliefs. Sex is no game and affects our psyche very much no matter who we are. Sex should be done when your ready and on your terms. Thus, you need to know who you are sexually, intimately, spiritually, holistically in order to be "comfortable" enough to 'allow' yourself to reach orgasm. Some women become more turned on when the clitoris is touched and others get more turned on with a certain size of penis. I was very fortunate and was in love with a beautiful man who we learned together....and it took a few YEARS. Yes, we had frustration and at times had to stop because it was going nowhere. But, our love and respect for each other helped us relax and our talking with each other helped us understand why something was or was not working. My belief is that sex is for marriage. But I was human and made my own choice to be with my love....anyway...
That is what I learned for myself in order for me to reach an orgasm. I hope something in that mumbo jumbo helped.
What is your idea of intimacy? Obviously it is with someone you love and not a solo act, but have you taken time to analize what you think you would like when making love with your partner? Have you had a partner and were able to try your thoughts out with them? How does your partner respond to you and what you need for intimacy? Are they attentive and take the time you need and do what you ask of them. Basically it is very simple and kind of like reading...you start out shy and don't want to read out loud (you don't want to tell your partner what to do for many reasons), then you read a line or two (you and your partner listen lovingly to each others requests and needs and are always patient), with practice soon your reading chapters (after a while you don't have to repeat what you like and soon you move onto exploring each other), then before you know it your finishing the whole book (...yes, you have reached orgasm).
OK, maybe thats not the answer your looking for. First because you are not for masterbation you need to have a partner to complete orgasm. I am not for masterbation and I abstain. I am heterosexual but like to call myself A-sexual. I am not for men or for women. I simply have no time for sex right now. My life is very busy and fulfilling. BUT, when I did have a boyfriend I was able to reach the most ecclesiastical orgasms...but don't get me wrong...Its not like all the crap like they show on TV. That screaming and pushing all the stuff off the counter is for TV only. I don't know anyone who has EVER done that.
Science depicts that masterbation IS natural. You will see humans exploring their own bodies as babies. Babies do not mean to reach an orgasm, they are exploring and learning, they do what makes them feel good and avoid what hurts them.
This is such a deep answer I am not doing a good job at all. You are not alone. One of my friends told me, and she has been married 3 times with 2 children, that she has never had an orgasm. I was shocked. BUT her life has not been ideal. She has had a hard life to put it simply and her husbands do their business and then its over.
Other than needing the right partner, I believe it is in the brain. Whether or not one is in menopause (hormone imbalance), the idea/opinion of sex prior to the actual act, the environment, ones health (are you feeling weak or a little off), and a huge one is spiritual beliefs. Sex is no game and affects our psyche very much no matter who we are. Sex should be done when your ready and on your terms. Thus, you need to know who you are sexually, intimately, spiritually, holistically in order to be "comfortable" enough to 'allow' yourself to reach orgasm. Some women become more turned on when the clitoris is touched and others get more turned on with a certain size of penis. I was very fortunate and was in love with a beautiful man who we learned together....and it took a few YEARS. Yes, we had frustration and at times had to stop because it was going nowhere. But, our love and respect for each other helped us relax and our talking with each other helped us understand why something was or was not working. My belief is that sex is for marriage. But I was human and made my own choice to be with my love....anyway...
That is what I learned for myself in order for me to reach an orgasm. I hope something in that mumbo jumbo helped.
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