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Orgasm a no show during sex

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about eight months and I still have not been able to orgasm with him. I can orgasm when I masturbate with myself but not with him. Both of us are very frustrated because of this, I want to please him and myself by having an orgasm, but it's just ot happening! Help!
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You are so right! Thank you!
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1141224 tn?1278725381
Audioslave is right! Certain woman can only reach climax when they have clitoral stimulation during sexual intercourse. You said you've tried toys, but in what way? Sometimes they're too much to handle. Have your boyfriend go a little slower... this will allow for your vaginal muscles to relax during sex. If he goes too fast, you may tighten up and not be able to orgasm.  Have him go slower and while he does, give yourself some clitoral stimulation with your fingers (easiest when he's doing it from behind) and concentrate on trying to relax your vaginal muscles at the same time, in a similar way you would when going pee. Best wishes. The fact that you ARE able to climax on your own is a good sign, you'll get there!
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Well I have dicussed this with him and we have tried various things. Just nothing seems to work. :( We have used toys.....I just want to be able to orgasm while having sex.
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176495 tn?1301280412
try sitting down with him and discus what feels good to you and perhaps show him (yes, this could be embarrassing) or perhaps while you are having sex, masturbate as you normally would...don't be embarrassed...this would be a turn on for a guy..


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well, i have girlfriend for about 14 months now and she had same problem first half year or so, and then we changed pose and she started using her fingers and it still remains her only option to get orgasm. you could try stimulating with your fingers and see what happens...
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