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[Neverhood]

I'm glad i found this!.. i'm 19, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 months now. It was the first long term relationship with anyone besides my hand. i watched a lot of porn, you could say i was addicted to M.

For the first two months i would be able to get hard and maintain my erection during oral sex, but as soon as it was time to penetrate i would start to soften. This left me feeling horrible!! My girl thought it was her and i told her it was me thinking "wow man i never thought you would deal with this, what a buzz kill" Now i didnt have a problem achieving an erection in the first two months. But as some time passed, i lost my job within the third month of are relationship. Along went my self esteem i believe. In this third month i have been suffering from let alone maintaining an erection but from even getting one too start with, on and off may i add!!.. :(

Psychogenic ED??? possibly

Now Ive done some research, i started doing kegel exercises to achieve a stronger more confident erection.. i believe this will help.. any advice????

I was thinking about buying some L-Arginine supplements for increased blood flow as well!!??

I'am scared this will hurt my relationship if it continues!!!!!  I saw the ADDICTED TO PORN FORUM on here, they shared my common problems like going soft before penetration maybe thats it!.. I just feel turned off, but im attracted too her doesnt make any sense to me i dont know how to deal with it!! ??????? Helppp Meee!

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[Neverhood]

THANNKKK YOU SO MUCH! omg such a relief but a scary one!.. this is without a doubt what i have, its so obvious now after watching your brain on porn... but are u saying i should try not to get aroused at all? like if i do when im with her i should get up and walk it off or something??? it will be worth it for sure in the long run... thanks again everybody for your time and will to help someone you dont know!! <3

[NOHARD]

Hi Hoody, OK what you now have is porn enduced ED, and the way out of it is this, you need to do an 8 week sabbatical of no sex or sexual contact, yes and I can hear the sighs and the groons, so its no masturbating, no sex, no falling around with her, in fact just keep away from your g/f why you are doing this, but its best if you tell her what its for and why, yes its time to put youir cards on the table, you will find her more agreeable if you are straight with her, but tell her its for the best, and the best sex she will ever have wonce you are better.
And if you wont you can google porn enduced ED for more info.
Good Luck

[Neverhood]

I realized even when i was having sex with my girlfriend my mind was still in porn, when i was M without porn my mind was in porn, i do not have wet dreams, barely ever get morning wood anymore and cannot get an erection for the life of me with some assistance i hope basically practicing abstinence for a couple weeks or months will help my condition... It may make or brake my relationship but im willing to take the chance!!... Wtf? lol might as well have a sense of humor about this whole ordeal fml!

[Neverhood]

I just watched a couple videos of your brain on porn i beleive that is my problem!... But i dont have the urge to watch it? i reallyyy did when i didnt have a girlfriend though!.. i learned High speed internet porn can possibly re wire your brain and you get trapped in that cycle... :( When a real person came into play i was not used to it trying to force myself to get use to it, ultimately makiing things worse... I thought it wsa my penis but it is my brain from the negative effects of porn... which really pissed me off!!! its almost impossible for a young kid to not be tempted to search for porn. So hooked right there for the most part.. I was an addict i did it for comfort but now i know it messed me upp!!

Now can i have sex during this? Should i wait and just not ejaculate at all for awhile my girl would understand!? i realized it has been a long time since i went a week without M i dont even remember!! Again porn hasnt been a problem lately but my on off switch has been although im aroused i cannot provide an erection all the time!

[Neverhood]

Thank you for your information :)

[mariah_liebert]

Well, my boyfriend is having similar issues. He tried talking to people close to him about it and then he opened up and he went to a few therapy sessions. I even went once. Even if she doesnt support that and doesnt wanna go with you it still helps. It doesnt have to be a actual therapist it could just be a good friend or mentor. Many men have this problem it wont be something that no one can relate to and you shouldnt be embarrassed about it at all. I know some people dont think this but sex is a huge connection especially when you are sharing it with someone that you care about and it isnt just casual. Try just a friend or someone close and see what they think because they will know you better then anyone online or any story you hear or watch on tv. Just try it. Not promising anything. But if it is that important to you then its worth it to try.

[Neverhood]

Yes i brought it up to her today... and things started to clear up after she accepted it and realized it wasnt her, that all these people have similar stories! Thanks..... But still need further info!??

[Neverhood]

I dont anymore, buttt i did like every chance i could from the age of 12 to well a couple months ago im 19 now. although i did slow down gradually in that last year but my mind was still there... the first time having sex i realized wow i sat in a chair during all my sexual pleasure moments just using my arm and penis 0.o this might be bad sure enough.... i wasnt confident in my erection and its been up and down since then :/ lately though i am so nervous it effects it even more i believe ive even thought about taking viagra or cialis just to ease my mind!!! ughhhh

[NOHARD]

Hi Hoody, So do you masturbate to porn?
Please come back there is away out.

[TTinKKerBBell]

I think You should look more carefully at "porn addiction".  Read "Your Brain on Porn".  It's on the web.  So, Yes, it would appear to me that You have a "porn problem" BUT, it can be remedied.  I think ultimately, You will have to give up, relinquish porn - but, seems to me, that would be a SMALL price to pay for a REAL intimate relationship with a REAL person.  Let us know how You fare with this?