I am sooo sorry to hear your story, I have the same problem, but he likes to watch gay porn, It totally makes me so sick, that I can not sleep with him anymore!!! I hoped he would change, but he does not do anything about it he acts like there is nothing wrong in this relationship,and it is eating me up Day by day!!! I have become such a strong person because at first I used to get depressed. I have been
dealing with this for three years, and I have found out that there is nothing I can do! I am 43 and he is 48 a lot of my friends say he looks like my dad, he smokes and masturbates soo much that it is killing him.
The sex drive of a person can be a dominating force and at times it can be extremely difficult to control. I would say that if your relationship was based on sex initially you should leave. If however you value other aspects of your relationship higher you should make an effort to make this work. During periods of my own life we've not had sex for months. That really does'nt matter cause other things mean more to me. And her. Eventually things have a tendency to work out and you'll be glad you stayed. Think of all the other things you'll miss out on.. Having someone to talk to, to share your up's and downs with... I can't speak for everyone but I do know that the meaning and value of sex varies tremendously from person to person. If it's that important to you then this situation is no good. If other things matter - try to work things out. I must say though, looking up illegal porn sites on the web is a concern. A big one. If child abuse is a factor on these sites I would pull out immidiately and notify the authorities.
I told him 5 days ago that he has to try harder to stop with this behavior or it end our relationship. We have not had sex since then. He also is still attempting to look up porn on my computer (I've found a way to block them but he still tries). Another big issue was him masturbating in bed at night thinking I am asleep. I've told him several times that I AM NOT ASLEEP when he does this and it bothers me immensely, but he continues to do it. Is it that much of a habit that he just can't help it? Or is he basically telling me that he will not stop? I can't deal with it, especially when it has been weeks since we've had sex. I have never had any addictions and am having a hard time relating to this behavior and yet I am trying to be understanding. I don't want the relationship to end and yet I would like him to respect my wishes. Any suggestions????
hi, im afaird to say that maybe you are prolonging the inevitable. i know this does not sound nice but your partner has no interest in you and when he does its for his own pleasure. he is not even bothered about getting you in trouble for using illigal porn sites, this is a relationship ready for doom. do your self a favour and get out while you still can with your dignatiy intacked.