please help

[liv_long]

I have never had an orgasm. I have been to the gynecologists and all they ever tell me is "penetrative orgasms are rare, perhaps try to stimulate the clitoris and/or do both." Well, I have been sexually active for quite some time now, and still nothing, no matter what I or my partner does. I can get extremely aroused before sex and during sex I am still just as aroused, but no orgasm comes along. No matter how long intercourse lasts, there will be no orgasm. I'm starting to think that I will never have one in my life. I just think this is not fair, I'm sure my husband-to-be, havent met him yet, will be able to achieve an orgasm. So I'm saying please help me with this in any way you can. I'm tired of asking gynecologists who dismiss the problem I've been having for years. PLEASE HELP!

[vmvnpv]

Vance is actually right.  Very few women have orgasms through penetration alone.  Most women (myself included) only orgasm with clitoral stimulation.  Try doing that solo and see what gets you there.  Then show your bf how he can do it too.

[SeriousSam]

Try masturbating with either your partner inside of you (unmoving) or a toy, that might conditon you to coming with penatrative sex.

umm.  Have you only had solo sex?  I just noticed your age.  If not there may be other directions yu need to go with this...

[trushing69]

I disagree. If you do achive an orgasm from clit stimulation then you can move on to penetrative sex. It may make it easier for you to achieve an orgasm with penetrative sex.

[Vance2335]

Some woman can't have an orgasm, that is just life. Most women do not have penitrative orgasms like your Dr said. Best advice is to use clitorial stimulation. Try masterbation alone and just keep rubbing your clit. if you can achieve an orgasm then have your boyfriend do it also and have him give you oral sex.
Do not stimulate your clit and then move to penetrative sex, keep the focus on your clit.