relationship and porn sites

[ema125]

hello my name is emily, and im in a serious relationship of 2-3 yrs. and in the past months i noticed he's been going into free porn websites daily now or everytime im gone or doing something, he'll go right back to the porn sites, n its been REALLY bothering me alot, i thought maybe i wasn't curvy or busty enough for him..i even caught him having a naked porn pic on his screen saver in his cell phone. so that really bothered me alot. i also thought about leaving him, and brough that to his attenstion, times n times again i been confronting him about the porn sites and he keeps on lying or he'll keep on continuing watching porn while im gone. so i got soo tired of it that i gave up..i been stressed out alot! and having insecurities about myself because of this..and while we become intimate he would watch porn while telling me that he wishes my butt gets bigger, like the porn stars..PLEASE help me...:(

[vicki595]

Emily:  There you go!!  Two great guys right there!  Don't settle for the jerk you're with!

[mookie377]

Hello Emma Im a 52yr,old man and would always treat the next person in my relationship with the same RESPECT that i wanted.First things first,your man got caught being a voyeur,but instead of apolgising with a true heart,the stiff Liede and continues to lie.Emma Noe the balls in your court.This is how Co-dependant relationships start,and moreover,work.Emma there is a Strong Correlation to Porn and Crack-Cocaine,its not the only reason ,but its right up there.Sit this guy down and discuss the situation with  a trained couples copuncillar,someone who is not Nieve,or Emotionally charged by what this Porn-boy says.No healthy relationship is bases on Addictive Substances,or Behaviours.Show this too Mister Porn   Yours Truly     JOHN

[jrchop]

I am a male of 44 years. About 8 months into my second marriage my wife started going into these sites and I could not get her to stop going into these places. She ultimately started having affairs with other men and got into crack. She was not a user to my knowledge before we married. I knew her over two (2) years prior to saying I do. It got so bad on our first and last anniversary she spent in bed with another man. I know this she was honest enough to tell me about him when she returned home. I tried to work this out but these sites kept getting in the road. I divorced her after I gave her chance after chance but these sites kept her wanting more and more. I felt like it was me to be the problem.  I done absolutely every thing she asked of me to wind up in a divorce. I was shell shocked by this but I over came it in time. It was very difficult to divorce her but she would never quit going there. I wish you the best in this situation and hope you can overcome this situation.  You are who you are and God made you who you are for a reason.You do NOT have to change your appearance for any man that really cares for you for who you are. If he is interested in  these sites more than you than you are NOT at fault.You are a beautiful person and I believe this and have never seen you. You have a heart of gold. Do NOT  let any person tarnish your golden heart.You deserve to have the best and if he cannot or will not leave these places than you should consider leaving for a little while and let him see for himself what he loses. When he says you should have a bigger butt,Who is he thinking about? YOU? OR HER? Good question huh. When I become intimate with a woman I am with her heart and soul body and spirit. So do NOT  let any man who will lie to you tell you he loves you. Is that a lie or is it the truth.Remaining with this person could ultimately cause your golden heart to break and that is not to easy to repair. So ask yourself. Do I want a man that lies and thinks of others when we are intimate or do I want a man that is honest with me. If he is not honest with you than there is not even a possibility he can be honest with himself. I wish you the best in your journey. May God bless you.

[vicki595]

Hey Emily:  How old is this guy? 12?   He isn't very sensitive to your feelings and to watch
porn during intimate moments ( if you're not in favor of it) is just cold!!  I think you deserve better than this. There are so many great guys...don't settle.

I'm going to ask that your post be moved over to the Sexual Health Forum. Lots of good advice over there!  Good luck!

[ema125]

hello my name is emily, and im in a serious relationship of 2-3 yrs. and in the past months i noticed he's been going into free porn websites daily now or everytime im gone or doing something, he'll go right back to the porn sites, n its been REALLY bothering me alot, i thought maybe i wasn't curvy or busty enough for him..i even caught him having a naked porn pic on his screen saver in his cell phone. so that really bothered me alot. i also thought about leaving him, and brough that to his attenstion, times n times again i been confronting him about the porn sites and he keeps on lying or he'll keep on continuing watching porn while im gone. so i got soo tired of it that i gave up..i been stressed out alot! and having insecurities about myself because of this..and while we become intimate he would watch porn while telling me that he wishes my butt gets bigger, like the porn stars..PLEASE help me...:(