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sex drive!!
y is it that women are so worried about men not getting enough sex.. i dont understand y its such a bad thing that men arnt getting laid as much as they want!! and y do women have to worry about doing somthing to replace sex if we dont want to have it?? y cant a man just masterbate if he thinks he needs sex and he isnt getting enough!
i think that women espically mothers do enough without having to worry about what men are being deprived of. most men (excuse me if u do not fall under this category) go to work and come home and expect to be catered to and i think its BS!! women are still expected to do house work, take care of kids, and go to work... when did making sure your husband gets enuf sex become somthing we were expected to do??
i think that women espically mothers do enough without having to worry about what men are being deprived of. most men (excuse me if u do not fall under this category) go to work and come home and expect to be catered to and i think its BS!! women are still expected to do house work, take care of kids, and go to work... when did making sure your husband gets enuf sex become somthing we were expected to do??
and I really dont care what you think of me, especially in your case, no wonder that you don´t care about my girlfriend´s opinion on you, it is ok, but more astonishing thing for me is that you dont even care about what your husband thinks of you or what feelings he might have...You don´t have to bother about me, one pig (me) or one xxx (me again) cannot spoil your satisfaction or your peace of mind, I guess you have more significant problems to solve in your life than wasting your time on insults addressed to some unimportant pig, right? But if it brings some relief to you, feel free to continue insulting me, hopefully it can have some therapeutic effects if you vent your hatred here instead of in real life...Bye
your hust saying that because she reads ur posts!! and i really dont care if she agrees with me or not i still think ur ***
You have mentioned my girlfriend...so I just want to let you know that she has read all of my posts here, we read this website together and we have discussions about these topics almost every day. I have never tried to hide any of my opinions or acts from my girlfriend and my activities on this forum are not an exception to this. My girlfriend has read all of your posts on this thread as well as mine, and she says she absolutely does not agree with your opinions on this thread and she says it is because she loves sex and she is able to enjoy it very much. These discussions are helpful for her also because it is a field of her studies, she is in her last year at university where she studies psychology and specializes in sexology.
My final word: in your last post I found only one word which I can absolutely agree with - that my girlfriend is PERFECT as you have written.
My final word: in your last post I found only one word which I can absolutely agree with - that my girlfriend is PERFECT as you have written.
I thought you would not degrade yourself to the extent of reading notes which were not addressed to you, and by the way in the note for mars I just repeated what I have openly and publicly written in the second paragraph of my first post to you on this thread, so I did not act behind your back...I am not sure if you know what sexism is or if you just think that it is something dirty because it has something to do with sex:)... Sexism is discrimination of people because of their sex/gender and I do not consider myself to be sexist because I know that there are different kinds of women. My comments could sound offensive against partners (women and men) who do not care about the needs of their partners, this is not a sexist statement (is it a big news for you that not every woman is as sexless as you are? or as inconsiderate to husbands needs?). But probably there is no point in trying to explain something to the person who does not know that human beings have also sexual needs (see your first reply to my first comment here above).
u wish me luck and a happy relationship... BS!! that was a wonderful note u left for mars do u think i cant read??
i should say that i hope the PERFECT girl u talk about opens her eyes and realizes what a sexist pig you are.. but u know i dont wish awful things on others just for stating ther opinions!!
i should say that i hope the PERFECT girl u talk about opens her eyes and realizes what a sexist pig you are.. but u know i dont wish awful things on others just for stating ther opinions!!
u wish me luck and a happy relationship... BS!! that was a wonderful note u left for mars do u think im cant read??
i should say that i hope the PERFECT girl u talk about opens her eyes and realizes what a sexist pig you are.. but u know i dont wish awful things on others just for stating ther opinions!!
i should say that i hope the PERFECT girl u talk about opens her eyes and realizes what a sexist pig you are.. but u know i dont wish awful things on others just for stating ther opinions!!
My husband and I have been married 29yrs our sexual libidos are totally different He would like it once a day,I'm lucky to want it once a fortnight we meet somewhere in the middle give and take,marriage is about talking and discussing how you feel if I don't feel like sex, my husband doesn't pressure me however if we haven't had sex for a while even if I don't really feel like it I'll do something else to give him pleasure,But never if I feel he is pressuring me it is always my choice.
any guy, and every guy, if lacking something for long enough will go and get it. Get it!
Basically, I do not want to contradict your last post. I think that the real problem with unpleasant consequences starts only if the partners´ desired frequencies are extremely different. I believe that if both partners belong to the (approximately) same category, they will not feel frustrated or upset by some occasions when they cannot fulfil their needs. For example if both partners want to have sex cca 2-3 times a week, then one e.g. Wednesday night will not ruin the relationship, or if both want to have sex twice a day, then they will find a mutually satisfying way of dealing with possible differences in mood, or if they want to have sex once a year, again it is easy to agree whose birthday will be the day of sex etc...
The problem starts when two people are absolutely incompatible in terms of frequency, e.g. if a husband wants to have sex every day and his wife 2-5 times a year or vice versa, in other forums I have read many cases when wives complained that husbands refuse having sex with them in this cruel discrepancy (every day - wife versus once a year-husband), then it is impossible to "be in the mood" 300 times more often than he/she wishes or it is hard not to be in despair if you have to wait for it 300 days provided you want to have it every day.
It is not a mistake of one person, even people with no libido are perfectly ok, I would probably agree if this diagnosis was canceled from DSM IV...but it is fatal for the relationship if one person is completely different from his/her partner in terms of sexual life. It does not mean that sex is the only important thing, in my opinion it is necessary to have similar ideas about sexual satisfaction, but it is not the only thing. (the same with trust - it is necessary, but not the only important thing, and the same with sex- it is necessary, but not the only important thing to have similar preferences, frequencies etc...)
I admit that it is very rare to find a partner who is absolutely compatible with us, in an ideal case there would be no problems with these matters, but it is crucial to find at least a partner who belong to the similar "category", if he / she is from the opposite spectrum, the differences in sexual needs can ruin the relationship even if sex is not the most important part of the relationship. If someone has high sex drive, again, it is not his fault and I can understand his/her frustration if partner refuses him/her or even finds it difficult to touch or kiss him/her because of some aversion which was buliding up over the years. It is very sad and there is really no need to blame anyone in this situation.
These days, it is easy for me to speak about these problems because I´ve been living with a perfect girl for the last two years and not only we love and respect each other in every possible way, but we have the miraculous gift of having the same preferences about sex life, including frequency, so neither I nor she have to beg for sex, on the contrary, if one of us sees the interest from the other, it just makes us happy, and it happens literally every day. But in the past it was absolutely different in other relationships (my ex-relationships as well as hers were ruined by it, in my case it lead to complicated and painful divorce 8 years ago- by the way I have never been unfaithful to my ex-wife, my previous comments about cheating were just a matter of theory)
I wish you the best of luck and a happy relationship
severin76
The problem starts when two people are absolutely incompatible in terms of frequency, e.g. if a husband wants to have sex every day and his wife 2-5 times a year or vice versa, in other forums I have read many cases when wives complained that husbands refuse having sex with them in this cruel discrepancy (every day - wife versus once a year-husband), then it is impossible to "be in the mood" 300 times more often than he/she wishes or it is hard not to be in despair if you have to wait for it 300 days provided you want to have it every day.
It is not a mistake of one person, even people with no libido are perfectly ok, I would probably agree if this diagnosis was canceled from DSM IV...but it is fatal for the relationship if one person is completely different from his/her partner in terms of sexual life. It does not mean that sex is the only important thing, in my opinion it is necessary to have similar ideas about sexual satisfaction, but it is not the only thing. (the same with trust - it is necessary, but not the only important thing, and the same with sex- it is necessary, but not the only important thing to have similar preferences, frequencies etc...)
I admit that it is very rare to find a partner who is absolutely compatible with us, in an ideal case there would be no problems with these matters, but it is crucial to find at least a partner who belong to the similar "category", if he / she is from the opposite spectrum, the differences in sexual needs can ruin the relationship even if sex is not the most important part of the relationship. If someone has high sex drive, again, it is not his fault and I can understand his/her frustration if partner refuses him/her or even finds it difficult to touch or kiss him/her because of some aversion which was buliding up over the years. It is very sad and there is really no need to blame anyone in this situation.
These days, it is easy for me to speak about these problems because I´ve been living with a perfect girl for the last two years and not only we love and respect each other in every possible way, but we have the miraculous gift of having the same preferences about sex life, including frequency, so neither I nor she have to beg for sex, on the contrary, if one of us sees the interest from the other, it just makes us happy, and it happens literally every day. But in the past it was absolutely different in other relationships (my ex-relationships as well as hers were ruined by it, in my case it lead to complicated and painful divorce 8 years ago- by the way I have never been unfaithful to my ex-wife, my previous comments about cheating were just a matter of theory)
I wish you the best of luck and a happy relationship
severin76
I completely agree with you that it is a problem if you have no sex drive..and it can cause strain on a relationship but that shouldnt be what relationships are based on!!
you dont have to have sex everytime your partner wants to in order to care about them!!
the purpose of my post was to see y women think they need to beat themselves up so much about it.. if there are days u just dont feel like it then u just dont feel like it.. it donst have to mean there is somthing wrong with you or that u believe your needs come before the person u love!!
you dont have to have sex everytime your partner wants to in order to care about them!!
the purpose of my post was to see y women think they need to beat themselves up so much about it.. if there are days u just dont feel like it then u just dont feel like it.. it donst have to mean there is somthing wrong with you or that u believe your needs come before the person u love!!
I think you should revise the basics of biology and psychology, if you do not know that sexual need is included in the system of needs, not just from my perspective but also in official textbooks of psychology (in my country this is included in secondary school textbooks as well as university textbooks). If someone has no sex drive, it is included in DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual) and ICD (International Clasification of Diseases) as a diagnosis, so do not confuse your disease with distorted view on human physiology.
As for sex outside marriage, this is just a matter of moral standards or ethical systems of norms which can vary from person to person and from culture to culture. But I agree with you that a husband should get rid of an insensitive wife who says "i dont care if u are sex deprived or not..." even before starting some affairs, fortunately there are many (or at least some) women in the world who find sex pleasurable and who do not take it as a duty comparable to housework. Really, sex is more of a physiological need (scientific fact) than cleaning the house (favourite metaphor of feminist agenda of frustrated women who are a target of laughter from all serious scientific circles).
As for sex outside marriage, this is just a matter of moral standards or ethical systems of norms which can vary from person to person and from culture to culture. But I agree with you that a husband should get rid of an insensitive wife who says "i dont care if u are sex deprived or not..." even before starting some affairs, fortunately there are many (or at least some) women in the world who find sex pleasurable and who do not take it as a duty comparable to housework. Really, sex is more of a physiological need (scientific fact) than cleaning the house (favourite metaphor of feminist agenda of frustrated women who are a target of laughter from all serious scientific circles).
lol i never said i dont have sex with my husband at all.. i just ment i dont think that women should be sweating about men thinking that just because they dont get laid everyday that they are not loved and they feel the need to bicker that they never get any... im sure there are moments that men dont want to clean house, or change diapers etc so they just dont do it, well y cant women do the same??? there are times we just dont feel like having sex and its not somthing that needs picked apart to find a meaning its a feeling!!
also I dont believe that sex should be put under the needs catagory... we need air, and we need food and water!!
and never at anytime is it ok to seek sex from someone else if you are married or in a relationship, i dont care if u are sex deprived or not.. if your not happy you end a relationship before you start another!!
also I dont believe that sex should be put under the needs catagory... we need air, and we need food and water!!
and never at anytime is it ok to seek sex from someone else if you are married or in a relationship, i dont care if u are sex deprived or not.. if your not happy you end a relationship before you start another!!
I have always thought that in a loving relationship we should care for the needs and satisfaction of our beloved partners. If my partner needs something and if I love her, I will always try to do my best to make her happy, to help her etc and I will not say just "why to care about her needs".
OK, people are different, but I just hope that wives who don´t care about sexual needs of their husband, don´t care about they ways how their sexually deprived husbands deal with their sexual needs, I mean you have absolutely no right to dictate him that he must masturbate, no, he has a right to have sexual intercourse with other girls as well. If you don´t care about his sexual needs, stop controling the ways how he satisfies these needs. If sex is not so important in a marriage, then you should not be hurt by the fact that he has sex outside the marriage. It is just sex, nothing important....why do wives bother about it, right?
OK, people are different, but I just hope that wives who don´t care about sexual needs of their husband, don´t care about they ways how their sexually deprived husbands deal with their sexual needs, I mean you have absolutely no right to dictate him that he must masturbate, no, he has a right to have sexual intercourse with other girls as well. If you don´t care about his sexual needs, stop controling the ways how he satisfies these needs. If sex is not so important in a marriage, then you should not be hurt by the fact that he has sex outside the marriage. It is just sex, nothing important....why do wives bother about it, right?
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