i'm having major problems in bed with my boyfriend of 10 years. we have sex just about every night. he doesn't last longer then 6 minutes. its like clockwork. it doesn't matter if he starts off slow and works his way up or if its a wam bam thank you mam. he has stopped pleasing me. sex is all for him. i spend so much time "pleasing" him and he does nothing for me. he won't kiss me, which really bothers me. i've tried talking to him about it and he says that he doesn't like it anymore. i need it. i'm feeling really frustrated because it makes me feel like he doesn't care about me. but then the next morning he'll make a quick comment about how he put it down on me.
we have gone through so much...breaking up, him cheating, fighting all the time. now, we are doing good but the sex isn't there. he wants it every night. i turn him on doing other things and during sex.
i'm starting not to want it. sometimes i'll use my toy before he comes in the room so when we do have sex, i'll finish first but thats cause i'm cheating. i want him to make me feel that way all on his own like he use to.
is it possible to get that spark back like we had in the beginning? i'm only 27 and he is 33. but we have been together 10 years.
when i try talking to him, he just says nothing is good enough for me ,or he will start walking away saying he doesn't wanna talk about it.