I am also in my mid 40s and this just started happening. I have always gotten extremely wet doing foreplay and sex but the gushing was a new height. I thought I peed myself but the feeling was so intense during the orgasm and my husband loves it. He makes it his mission to have me experience mind blowing gushing orgasms all the time. It turns him on beyond belief. Together we have reached new heights in our sexual life. I can now make him ejaculate multiply times sometimes 4 and 5 before he loses his erection. I think the gushing orgasms for me and his multiple ejaculations are a result of being in tune and relaxed with each other. We are both able to completely lose ourselves and all outside stresses when we "***" together.
I agree with all the above posts. As a woman, I would view those gushing secretions as a true blessing. Most men, I'm betting, would view it as "striking gold."
I 100% agree - We (my partner and I) are an older couple (mid 50's) and my partner gushes liquid when we are playing and when I am penetrating. I think it's great, and so does she - gotta keep a towel handy:-)
Anyway, back to the topic - texastweety, don't be concerned, feel blessed that this happens to you, cause I'll bet there is are millions of women who would love it to happen to them even once!!
As a guy I can confirm that I really love it. If it is female ejaculation / squirting, then you are a lucky woman, I have been told by my girlfriend that these "wet orgasms" are something special and pleasurable for her. And it is a wonderful feeling also for me when I see and feel that she "erupts" in this way. I would say that wetness or "sexual fluids" before, during and short after having sex (or orgasm) are very nice and arousing, I do not have any problem with it - on the contrary, I love it (the previous poster is right in this:)
I do that too and i hope there is no cure, most guys i know love it. its like fantasy nasty comic sex to most of them. Ive always been a squirter, but i can see how you would be startled having it come on later in life like that.