Who would have thought that a question on this site would result in a full fledged sermon. My opinion is, we are here to answer questions to the best of our ability and judge someone for what they have done in their lives. As for my personal opinion, Whether either one of you is a virgin or not, does not reallu matter, what matters is that you have a loving relationship.
Jesus loves you no matter what. your sins are no greater or less then anyone elses sins. premarital sex, adultry, lying, jealously, they are all sins just the same. it is not your place to judge, and id prefer you. and Sam, this statement here "admit that you have no idea why you follow God except as an excuse for your other behaviors." breaks my heart. God died for you, and your sins, the sins you comitted today, yesterday and the sins you will commit tomorrow. alls he asks is that you go to him, and ask repentance, and you will be forgiven. this is a place for questions not criticism. i understand you are both entitled to your own beliefs, but think before you speak.
From experience these thinks can get a little frenetic and that combined with the extra, unaccustomed I assume, activities can disrupt your cycle.
Jesus forgave Mary Magdelene whom many now think he married. To be Christian means to be christlike correct? So can you be write with God if you are not right with yourself or your family"
"For god so loved the world that whosoever believeth in him shall not perish but have everlasting life."
If god can forgive you the jealousy, and resentment in your heart that your wife first love and enjoyment in heart with another, love and enjoyment that was even with her experience eclipsed by with what she later found with a man as faithful and righteous as Job who are you to question God's forgivenes or her choice?
You can either except that her experiences were what god chose to lead her to a paradigm of virtue to save her soul such as yourself or admit that you have no idea why you follow God except as an excuse for your other behaviors.
And was I a virgin at my marriage? No. I was a late bloomer perhaps but I have usually found adults past their early 20's to be hopelessly nuerotic and repressed.
you were more than likely spotting because your periods due around that time. it happens. dry humping or not. i doubt it was your hymen. and even if it was its no biggie
It,s Ok! you are entitled to you're opinion. I'm sorry you think my views are so idiotic and childish. I'm assuming you did'nt wait, but it's Ok ,jesus still loves you!
Grow up. It's not healthy to say something as idiotic as your wife not being a virgin bothered you if she chose you in the end.
I would also like to add, good for you for being a virgin.dont give in to you're urges because you only get 1 chance, I was a virgin when I met my wife and she was dating my best friend for 2 years,she thought she was in love so she let him take her virginity. at the time I was like,whatever but 2 years later she left him and fell in love with me. Now I love her more than anything, but the one thing that still gets in the way is the fact that she gave herself to him.It kills me every time I think about it, and it still causes us some problems because of my insecurities towards this. being a virgin is very special, dont give it up just because he tells you that he loves you. take it from me, save yourself for your husband, It will save you and him alot of heartache, I always imagine how beautiful it would have been if me and my wife could have lost ours together, but you cant undo whats already been done.
what do you mean when you say that you were dry humping? Did he penetrate you give more details about the act of what you were doing and we might be able to give and educated guess about whats going on.