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hubby doesnt like oral sex
please someone try to help me. my husband doesnt like oral sex. initially i couldnt believe it. he not only doesnt like giving it he hates getting blow jobs.(hes a guy!!) after awhile in our two yr marriage,after talkin about it many times n gettin no answers from him .we finally had some really big fights n i insisted on the reasons. his reasons are he cant put his face and tongue where i take a **** from its too sick for him. same goes for why he doesnt wana get it from me . he says it just seems extremely unhygenic to him and secondly im his wife and he says he doesnt like seeing me sucking on him .he things its a degrading act and it makes him think how disgusting it is, how unattractive i look with his penis in my mouth, how disrespectful an act it is . it looks like something prostitutes n whores do.
i love oral sex , giving and getting. wat should i do?
i love oral sex , giving and getting. wat should i do?
My guy loves receiving but not giving. My ex husband found receiving just as disgusting as giving, but eventually he warmed up to the idea, I did him while he was drunk, then he liked it. But usually only after he had just taken a shower. But never would do it for me. This seems to be a recurrent problem with me. They love what I do for them, but they don't seem the least bit interested in pleasuring me. My ex finally did it for me once, before I knew that he hated it, and he threw up on me. Why are most guys like that??? BTW, I enjoy giving, but receiving would be nice once in a while too.
Hi Jessica,
I had to work today and then got busy after dinner. Hoping that the holidays are going okay for you.
Posting to you on this subject has certainly stirred up a lot of thoughts for me about my relationship with my spouse especially since the sexual piece is a big part of the problem that we don't even get to talk about anymore...not much anyway...not good to ignore it. Let's just say that as you age (I am 53 and my husband is 60) there are things you can do to continue to enjoy a sex life, you just have to be open to ideas and open to getting help if you need it. That is where I think I am concerned for you...if your spouse is closing the door to discussing (even if not agreeing to) sexual issues now, then what is in store for the future? So, good for you to try to address this now as best you can. And, again, I am thinking that this is not about sex..oral or otherwise, it's about control and about him calling you names based on your desires. Not Okay...
Hope you are well,
Mary
I had to work today and then got busy after dinner. Hoping that the holidays are going okay for you.
Posting to you on this subject has certainly stirred up a lot of thoughts for me about my relationship with my spouse especially since the sexual piece is a big part of the problem that we don't even get to talk about anymore...not much anyway...not good to ignore it. Let's just say that as you age (I am 53 and my husband is 60) there are things you can do to continue to enjoy a sex life, you just have to be open to ideas and open to getting help if you need it. That is where I think I am concerned for you...if your spouse is closing the door to discussing (even if not agreeing to) sexual issues now, then what is in store for the future? So, good for you to try to address this now as best you can. And, again, I am thinking that this is not about sex..oral or otherwise, it's about control and about him calling you names based on your desires. Not Okay...
Hope you are well,
Mary
hi.
first of all i wana thank u all for ure replies and ure input. secondly hope u all had a good christmas. i understand wat u r sayin that u don enjoy givin bj's , some ppl do ,some dont. for me its more of an issue of why cant he do this to make me happy or if he knows this is the one thing that'll turn me on to the bit! or just cauz i want somethin so much y cant he do it. i hope u all get wat i mean. sometimes i would want him to be so in the heat of the moment that for once he would stop concentratin on clean n dirty and wat he wants and wat he doesnt want n just go for it .hes never so into sex to forget all this. it bothers me more cauz he never compliments me in or out of bed and his relluctance to go down on me saying its too gross just tells me more that hes not too appreciative of my female form. yes he does liek sex and intercourse alot but i would do anythin for him and i do !inside and out of bed. so how about atleast once in awhile just doin this for me . after all its not such a freakin big deal.some nights i just get so turned off when i ask him hey u want a bj tonight just for a change or why don u go down and i hear this huge NO and i feel like sayin to hell with everythin im goin to sleep.
first of all i wana thank u all for ure replies and ure input. secondly hope u all had a good christmas. i understand wat u r sayin that u don enjoy givin bj's , some ppl do ,some dont. for me its more of an issue of why cant he do this to make me happy or if he knows this is the one thing that'll turn me on to the bit! or just cauz i want somethin so much y cant he do it. i hope u all get wat i mean. sometimes i would want him to be so in the heat of the moment that for once he would stop concentratin on clean n dirty and wat he wants and wat he doesnt want n just go for it .hes never so into sex to forget all this. it bothers me more cauz he never compliments me in or out of bed and his relluctance to go down on me saying its too gross just tells me more that hes not too appreciative of my female form. yes he does liek sex and intercourse alot but i would do anythin for him and i do !inside and out of bed. so how about atleast once in awhile just doin this for me . after all its not such a freakin big deal.some nights i just get so turned off when i ask him hey u want a bj tonight just for a change or why don u go down and i hear this huge NO and i feel like sayin to hell with everythin im goin to sleep.
You said: i feel like sayin to hell with everythin im goin to sleep.
Maybe you should. How would he react if he didn't get what HE wanted?
Maybe you should. How would he react if he didn't get what HE wanted?
kenziesmom ure right maybe for once i will say no to wat he wants and then see wat happens.
Just have to say that I wish you luck...if this is that important to you, I hope you find a way to work it all out. I personally do not like to give BJs...I would shout thanks to the heavens if my dh didn't ask for one!! He doesn't get them often. I usually have to get drunk to do it without gaging!!! But, everyone is different, and if this is that important for you, you and your hubby need to find a way to compromise. It's not all about him and what he wants--or rather doesn't want. He really needs to stop being so selfish and consider your feelings, he's had his way for a while, let you have a turn or two. Or three, or four...LOL.
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