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wife doesn't pursue
does anyone have this problem? If I do not initiate sex, I will get nothing. And even with that I am lucky to have sx about 1 time a week. When we have sex, her toes curl so I know I am doing it right so I don't understand. She won't flirt, no nooners, nothing exciting. I am a little overweight so I wonder if that is it. Sometimes I feel I just need to find it other places to give myself some excitment....
So SAD!!! Why is it that girls try so hard to give boys what they want and boys just don't care?! BOYS are physical and visually attracted. It's how they are. Girls are emotional and mental. If you want what the other has, quit focusing on yourself and figure out what the other needs. It isn't so hard.
I wish my own husband of 5 years would take my advice! If I don't initiate, we don't do the deed, so we literally have sex once or twice per month. Sure, we've talked about it, and he's asked me why I don't initiate. Quite simply, as a female my sex drive isn't "always on" like my husband's is. Frankly, while he complains that my lack of initiation when it comes to sex affects his self-esteem, MY self-esteem is also affected when he doesn't show me attention unless he wants to get in bed with me. It's very lonely. When he finally does "get sex" (reluctantly because he goes about it in the wrong way), it's usually just me giving him a hand job. Needless to say, our sex life isn't very fulfilling, and if I didn't know the meaning of the word "fidelity" I'd look elsewhere for the attention I crave.
Expat wife, you go, girl! I really don't get these men who think women are the pursuers. Throughout the history of mankind, men have pursued sex.
I don't get why some men have become so weird they expect women to dominate them sexually all the time. Women are not sexually dominant. Men are.
Women who happily submit to sex are a blessing. Why are some guys acting so weird that they expect to be persued for sex by a female, like, all the time? I can understand wanting the woman to persue once a in a while, on the off day, like literally twice a year.
Guys who think a woman should initiate sex every single time are off base, and making their lives miserable. because they are expecting the abnormal.
I don't get why some men have become so weird they expect women to dominate them sexually all the time. Women are not sexually dominant. Men are.
Women who happily submit to sex are a blessing. Why are some guys acting so weird that they expect to be persued for sex by a female, like, all the time? I can understand wanting the woman to persue once a in a while, on the off day, like literally twice a year.
Guys who think a woman should initiate sex every single time are off base, and making their lives miserable. because they are expecting the abnormal.
I THINK SOME PEOPLES SEX DRIVES ARE DIFFERENT. AS I AM A VERY SEXUAL PERSON, I HAVE BEEN IN A STEADY RELATIONSHIP FOR 8 YRS NOW,AND THOUGH HE REFUSES ME AT TIMES, I TALK TO HIM ABOUT US DOING IT.SO U MIGHT JUST NEED TO SIT DOWN AND HAVE A TALK WITH UR SPOUSE. SHE MIGHT JUST NEED SOME SORT OF SPICING UP IN THE RELATIONSHIP TO TURN HER ON.
SkipNBeat and Lindell are right on target. They seem to have a good understanding of the difference between men and women's minds.
Why is it that some men pursue women prior to marriage, then after the honeymoon phase is over expect their wives to pursue them? If a woman isn't going to pursue you before marrwhile you're dating, she isn't going to pursue you sexually after marriage. Most of us have to be led to that "special place". Be nice and understanding. Make her feel valued and respected. When you finally do get her in bed, pleasure her before pleasuring yourself, so she knows it's not "all about you".
Why is it that some men pursue women prior to marriage, then after the honeymoon phase is over expect their wives to pursue them? If a woman isn't going to pursue you before marrwhile you're dating, she isn't going to pursue you sexually after marriage. Most of us have to be led to that "special place". Be nice and understanding. Make her feel valued and respected. When you finally do get her in bed, pleasure her before pleasuring yourself, so she knows it's not "all about you".
I've been with my fiancee for 5 years and when I used to initiate sex early in our relationship he used to withdraw and tell me that he "can't do it that much". Now after hearing this for so long, I really love him but I hardly ever want to do it anymore. Now, he tries to initiate sex and I just don't feel like it, because he pressures me. I know sometimes guys can put too much pressure on women and not put enough focus on what they like...could this be happening with any of your relationships? I think that just seeing what gets your wife/girlfriend/fiancee really turned before sex (even if YOU don't like it-because you know we (girls) do things during sex that we don't always like) and really paying attention to your timing (not when we are half asleep or have been cleaning and running around all day) your chances may be better at getting her to pay the favor back...oh and how about helping with all of the housework so we can focus on having sex and not the laundry that's been sitting there for a week :) When we've been cleaning your dirty underwear and the razor stubble off the sink - there's a good chance we might not be really turned on when you get home.
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