How To Stop Letting Little Things In Life **** You Off

[Dazon50]

Advice| Lifestyle By: Brian Armstrong

Jan
2008


Have you ever seen someone complain about a parking ticket as if it’s the end of the world?

Have you been cut off in traffic and let it ruin your whole day?

How many times have you let your experience at the airport (crying baby, delayed flight, missing luggage) be the first thing you bring up in conversations with friends?

I want you to repeat after me: “these things happen”.

We all have these types of events come up in life, but successful people just go on as if nothing has happened, and unsuccessful people let it derail them.

The next time you feel a surge of anger coming on over an insignificant event in your life, go over these points in your head:
You look like an idiot
There is no polite way to put this. When others around you see you COMPLETELY lose it over the dent in your car door, they aren’t feeling sorry for you and wondering how they can help. They are subconsciously judging you and coming to one inescapable conclusion: you aren’t in control of your life.


If something this small throws you off, imagine how you’d react to a REAL problem in life. Overreacting tells the people around you that you can’t be trusted to deal with important issues. You’re not the goto guy (or gal) when they’re in need, because you can’t even take care of yourself.

The only person you’re hurting is yourself
Did you ever realize that when you get upset at someone who cuts you off in traffic, they generally never even know? Usually they speed off never the wiser to your insults and gestures. By getting angry, you’re doing zero harm to them while simultaneously hurting yourself even more. That doesn’t make much sense, and is a waste of your precious time and energy.


Now heres the zinger. What if that person purposely WANTED to upset you (they have some subconscious need to pick on others, they’re parents didn’t love them enough, etc)? Well then they are getting the exact reaction they wanted, and you’re playing right into they hands.

If you really want to mess with someone who flips you off in traffic, try smiling and waving back, and watch the confused look on their face. With time, you can even learn to appreciate and love these people (bizarre I know) for the important role they serve in life: helping to remind you how NOT to live. Don’t judge them, they are just at a different point in understanding life.
Find something to be grateful about
So you’re sitting there in rush hour traffic about ready to tear your hair out. Train yourself to go right into gratitude, and start listing what you’re grateful for and what good can come from this situation.


Maybe its the perfect time to make a phone call to a loved one you’ve been putting off. Maybe you can get some “reading” done on that audio book you’re listening to and be grateful for the chance to learn something new. Maybe its just a chance to put things in perspective and marvel at how far technology has come. After all, primitive mankind would have had to walk this distance. You get to SIT in an air conditioned chair barely pushing the accelerator.

There is something good in every situation, and you can find it. Even if its just that you’re grateful for the chance to practice being grateful.

Unsuccessful people are REACTIVE. They are a leaf blowing in the wind, the world is happening around them, and they are just trying to stay alive. When something bad happens, someone did it TO them and they take it personally. They get caught up in the victim mentality and take every opportunity to let people know it.

Successful people, on the other hand, are PROACTIVE. They make things happen in life and are on a mission. And by golly, they aren’t going to let some silly parking ticket take them off their mission. Instead, they say to themselves “these things happen” and move on to more important tasks.

....this is from the following site:  http://www.startbreakingfree.com/226/how-to-stop-letting-little-things-in-life-****-you-off/
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me:

I realized that I have been letting "little things" get to me lately.  I let someone dumping me from a group take waaaay too much energy in my trying to right what I saw was a wrong.  NO MORE......

1. version:  "visualizing a toilet"..."turning handle"...."vortex swirling away with this into the great dark abyss"

2. Neatened up version:  Prayer--"Lord God Almighty" I give you my human imperfection with all the wrong motives and emotions attacted to wrong reasonings and ask you to heal the hurts and create in me a "clean" heart with the willingness to let go and You take the things that PO ing me wrongly.  Help me focus on the right things and pray for others in the right way.  I believe You love us ALL...it isn't about me only.  Thank You for that reminder.

3, etc.  There are zillions of ways of coping with the things that trouble us....but what is your way?

As a Christian, I am taught  
There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death....Proverbs 14:12
Also:  The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, But a wise man is he who listens to counsel...Proverbs 12:15
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How will you handle the things that get to you?  Make you lose your cool?  Cause you to lose some sleep?  Be sharp with others?

[tbabi20]

You know it's kinda been people that's been getting me upset lately. I can deal with losing things or getting a ticket because those things are because of me but when other people do things or act weird I sometimes shrug it off and other times I hold on to it.

But I've realized that when I say I forgive someone I don't really think it works for me. I think in order for relationships to be mended they need confrontation. Before I can say, "I forgive you" I sometimes I have to say, "you hurt me". I do this because I know they'll continue doing what hurts me and we have to deal with it. If the hurt isn't real, how can forgiveness be real? And if our love isn't real, how can we stand to see the people continue with destructive attitudes and behaviours?

I know it doesn't work for random people but what about people who we constantly have to deal with.

I think too that we constantly have to pray for patience and the ability to calm ourselves to make peace. Sometimes before I go to bed and I think about all the things I could have done differently and sometimes I fail horribly - yet each day I want to get better and I think that's a place we all should be at.

I don't like the way I am when I just let myself act out of impulse. I think everyone just looks at you like you have no control which is worse then what had just happened, so I just let things go and keep myself busy to avoid riling myself up.

[Dalubaba]

This is the most practical subject to overcome obstacles in our lives. Every one has their own methods to handle the odd situations. Many books are written on the subjects directly or indirectly. If all members write techniques they adopt,i think we will have plenty of materials and techniques to experiment with. This can prove to be unending thread. As every one ha something to contribute.