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Hi, anyone over 45 TTC?
Hi, I will be 45 in June,I started a forum for us closer to 45 than 40. It just seems like being 40 is so different than being 45 when it comes to TTC. I'm not abandoning my TTC over 40, because without you I could not have gone through this. I love all of you, I would no absolutely nothing!
Love and SSBD
Melanie
Love and SSBD
Melanie
Hi, that's what I'm doing right now, natural cycle. I had one embryo but didn't implant. Next one was lost cuz I ovulated before the retrieval.That's the tricky thing about the natural cycle they can't really tell when you are going to ovulate. I do like not having stims, it always make me feel uncomfortable. I hope I can be so decisive about the donor eggs.. still struggling with that both my DH and I. Lots of BD to all of you.
Mali
Mali
Sharon, you crack me up! I meant donor eggs or just trying the old fashion way... Lol it's such a tough decision for all of us! And why would you think your donor would make ugly children? U still crack me up! I bet the meds are tough on our eggs, we did Icsi and assisted hatching, I made 11 embies, I was supposed to have 4 transferred but my re was afraid but never told me until I got there, I was so angry I insisted on at least 3, they only had 2 hatched and ready, well we know how that ended, I had 7 to freeze and only 1 survived.... Bfn, so here I am gonna keep trying iui and wait and see what the HSG does, then on to donor embies, the little boy who was born out of these embies is a cutie, we'll just have to wait and see!
Hugs
Melanie
Hugs
Melanie
Do the donor egg natural!? But then you would have an ugly/fat child!! LOLOLOL!! Because you would have to pick the ugliest fatest woman!! HAHAHA!! I'm cracking myself up today.
See.... it's that $28,000 thing with no happy outcome that keeps me from wanting to go that route. It is such a hard decision. Well, I'm cd 2 today so it's too late to do much about it this month, gives me time to think. I suppose I would (off the cuff) consider at least having natural follicle monitoring via ultrasould with trigger and BD'ing. That probably wouldn't cost all that much. I keep feeling like I'm making eggs and getting constant + opk's because body is trying to release them but it's not working. That's why maybe hcg shot would be helpful,
There is this doctor in New York that has the best IVF results for women over 40 and one thing he does is only stim with clomid or femars, retrieves only one or two eggs and does the ivf that way. He says older women's eggs are much more fragile than younger women and have to be treated with extra care. So sometimes I wonder if our older eggs being stimulated to mature super fast, is not good. He calls it natural cycle ivf. I think others are doing it now. I think he then (with the one or two good egs) does icis (where they inject the sperm into the egg), since our egg shells are tougher. Then I think he only gets them to a few cells and puts them back in the fallopian tube (which is more natural for dividing, than a petri dish) rather than incubating them for 5 days and putting them into the uterus. Now when I say he has the best stats for women over 40, his success rate is something like 7% vs 1%, but in medicine... that's a HUGE difference. See, they will get better at dealing with us older women, but probably, be really good at when we're like 60!!
Ya.... i know about the attain and they don't like us older women either!! *****!! I wish they would at least approve attain for us if we do natural cycle ivf.
Good luck this cycle Mel!! This one SHOULD be the charm! SSBD!! Sharon xxx
See.... it's that $28,000 thing with no happy outcome that keeps me from wanting to go that route. It is such a hard decision. Well, I'm cd 2 today so it's too late to do much about it this month, gives me time to think. I suppose I would (off the cuff) consider at least having natural follicle monitoring via ultrasould with trigger and BD'ing. That probably wouldn't cost all that much. I keep feeling like I'm making eggs and getting constant + opk's because body is trying to release them but it's not working. That's why maybe hcg shot would be helpful,
There is this doctor in New York that has the best IVF results for women over 40 and one thing he does is only stim with clomid or femars, retrieves only one or two eggs and does the ivf that way. He says older women's eggs are much more fragile than younger women and have to be treated with extra care. So sometimes I wonder if our older eggs being stimulated to mature super fast, is not good. He calls it natural cycle ivf. I think others are doing it now. I think he then (with the one or two good egs) does icis (where they inject the sperm into the egg), since our egg shells are tougher. Then I think he only gets them to a few cells and puts them back in the fallopian tube (which is more natural for dividing, than a petri dish) rather than incubating them for 5 days and putting them into the uterus. Now when I say he has the best stats for women over 40, his success rate is something like 7% vs 1%, but in medicine... that's a HUGE difference. See, they will get better at dealing with us older women, but probably, be really good at when we're like 60!!
Ya.... i know about the attain and they don't like us older women either!! *****!! I wish they would at least approve attain for us if we do natural cycle ivf.
Good luck this cycle Mel!! This one SHOULD be the charm! SSBD!! Sharon xxx
Hi Honey, I can only say that I'm there, yes my DH thought I would be pg by now. Me too. I don't know that I would do ivf again for me because it can take 5-6 times to work and at my age there is no attain program except if I use donor eggs. I think it's sweet that he is letting you know how much he wants this too! Have you thought about donor embies? I know it's not for everyone. If I had the money for donor eggs i would go that route so my DH could have a bio child, but we've already spent almost $28,000.00. Or maybe we could do it naturally?! You do what you need to do, I pray for your BFP!
Hugs,
Mel
Hugs,
Mel
You ARE going to get that golden egg Mel!! I can just feel it.
For the first time last night, dh brought up doing iui or ivf or whatever it takes. He even suggested we could check out places like Costa Rica for ivf since it is so expensive here. I had no idea he was really this into it. He has been so quiet about the whole thing over the past year. I'm wondering if maybe he thought it would just happen and now seeing that it isn't, he's getting nervous. Even though he wants to do what it takes, I still have such huge reservations about spending $30 - $50 grand for some iui's and ivf's and still not ending up with our little miracle. I am so confused right now... I don't know what to do.
For the first time last night, dh brought up doing iui or ivf or whatever it takes. He even suggested we could check out places like Costa Rica for ivf since it is so expensive here. I had no idea he was really this into it. He has been so quiet about the whole thing over the past year. I'm wondering if maybe he thought it would just happen and now seeing that it isn't, he's getting nervous. Even though he wants to do what it takes, I still have such huge reservations about spending $30 - $50 grand for some iui's and ivf's and still not ending up with our little miracle. I am so confused right now... I don't know what to do.
So I'm not pg this cycle, but I still ovulate, have an AMH of 5.6, I have many eggs, I just gotta keep going until I get my golden egg!
SSBD to all of us!
Melanie
SSBD to all of us!
Melanie
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