IVFers over 40 for March/April??

[Hopefulcb]

I'm having IVF starting at the end of March.  This is my first one so I'm really nervous and would love to share this journey with someone!!

[dancingmama]

Hi ladies I am 43.5 and just had my first IVF which was unsuccessful. Have really only recently started ttc. I has 12 eggs but only 7 mature. All 7 fertilized but 2 were abnormal nucleus and 2 died :(   . By day three one only had 2 cells but I transferred two 8 celled embies that didn't take. I had the bad news this past Wed so now am waiting for AF. I meet with the doc next week to see what can happen. Everything is out of pocket for the most part and I have small fibroids that might grow so time is of the essence. I will try at least once more with my own egg but definitely open to donor embryo as I need to use donor sperm anyway.

Has anyone tried or considered microIVF? Any success with it?

[MEL4141]

Thank you for that wonderful post! it made me feel alittle humble, sometimes I think should I just accept we were meant to have our little boy and our little boy only. Not keep trying for a sibling for him, we love him so much and he has brought us so much joy the yearning for another one is still there BUT I do know how lucky we are to have Alfie. I definetly always thank GOD for our miracle son(natural conception)-June will be our last try, my husband doesnt want to go down donor route and I have done everything I can to help with this cycle, dhea , royal jelly, starting acupuncture-thanks again for your post, it has lifted me this lovely sunny Good Friday morning in England. melissax

[mhv]

I love your post.  Very well said.  And you may not know this, but you have lifted my spirits many times! Don't sell yourself short! you are a great source of strength!  

Ladies, we cannot give up! We will all make wonderful parents!  We have to get up, dust ourselves off, and keep trudging forward!  We just have too.  Just think how much we will appreciate our child(ren).

Hugs to you all!!!!

[globetrot]

I hate this part.  To be cliche- it has taken the wind out of my sails.  We all start out together so hopeful- more than ready for those BFP.  God knows- after all we go through we deserve it!  Then little by little things happen.  Cycles are canceled or bfn.  It really is depressing.  I never know what to say when things do not work- you are my friends and I want so much for all of you- each of you to have your own healthy bundle of joy.  Yet- when it has been my canceled cycle- you all know exactly what to say.  I guess because we have all been then.  I am so proud of all of you and in awe of your strength.  I am so thankful for this site- for each of you.  Bless you all and thank you for your friendship!   SSBD to you.  May you all get what you want and need.

I heard the other day- if you are going to ask God for a blessing, you better start by thanking him for your blessings.  I count you ladies as a blessing.

[tones99]

well as from yesterday when af arrived, I'm out this cycle too .. I knew in my heart it hadn't worked and had been a bit miserable all week so have dealt with it and am moving on to the next cycle

I'm so sorry that it didn't happen for you Pum!  sometimes putting IVF behind you and not having that extra stress works for some people to conceive naturally .. it hasn't worked for me but then I've never really completely left it .. always thinking of next cycle .. it is expensive here too but the government refunds a lot once you have spent a certain amount, so it makes sense to do more cycles in one year to get them cheaper.

good luck to everyone else .. I will be dropping in here regularly to check on your progress!

[Pum]

Thanks guys. I'm not sure there are many more options for us. I'm 43, IVF is expensive, adoption isn't really an option in this country (very few babies and the ones that are up for adoption are mainly Maori/Pacific island and those communities practice whangai care ie keep the children within the family). We could do foster care but my husband isn't keen. Too emotionally draining, tragic stories etc.
We'll keep trying naturally I guess. I'm ok. We have a lovely son so life it pretty great.