I can't get pregant

[minniy]

My name is tizzie I'm 17 and iv been with my bf for 1 year and 2 mothes and had 2 misscarrigis I want to have a babys so bad I no evryfingk I need to no abwt having babys and I want 1 every time I have sex with him he's sperm comes owt of me and I ant falling pregant it was june 2013 wen I had my ferst misscarry and 3 weekks ago I had my second 1 and I need halp we both want 1 so much I'm doing everyfingk tacking folick acid and eating well but notingk working plis I'm begging you can you halp me much love frome tizzie right back asap xxxxx

[likklehev]

You need to think about what your trying to get yourself into.  Does your parents know your trying for a baby? Do you and your boy friend have a house and a car? If so then do you have plenty of soareoney at the end of each month? Babies are very expensive. Do you have thousands of pounds saved up to buy things like your pram and cot? These things arnt cheap.  Are you still in school? If not how can you expect your child to grow up well educated and go to college as they will just follow their parents path. How would you feel physically having to drag yourself to work in a morning when youve had no sleep and can't stop throwing up? How are you going to support yourselves after you've had the baby with only one wage? Yes it's nice to think about having children but there's lots of other things to consider first

[beccasaurous___]

Sweetheart, I'm 27 weeks with twins. I'm a qualified hairdresser & I work 3, 10 hour days a week. I have the belly the size of a 35 week single pregnancy and being on your feet all day this round, is well, tourture. If you think you're ready for a baby, that's great. However you should stay in school, focus on gaining your hairdressing trade. Hairdressers can travel the world and work anywhere. You're 17. I'm only 20 but I've travelled and seen some of Australia and the world... Travel, become qualified & then focus on setteling down. Babies things are expensive & children change your life forever.

[minniy]

Ok lesson thnaks four the info butt tbh its a laod off bull yano look I'm ready ta have a baby if I was it then I wood it been trying mabee year right butt in my heart I no wants right four me bye peps

[remar]

You have tried your best to give this girl advice and she feels like we're being evil to her. It does show immaturity when you give someone the facts and they just will not listen. We're mothers so we know exactly what's like to raise a baby. It is the hardest job you will ever have in your life and you need to be as prepared as you can. I have a feeling this poster will have to learn the hard way. My concern is for any babies that are born to people who have no real clue what it's like and how very hard it will be. It's not like a puppy you can re-home if things don't work out, if the puppy keeps you up all night or wets on the floor.  
I just wanted to say that you gave excellent advice to this poster. I just wish she would listen to women who have been through raising children.
I have to add that I have 3 nephews and between them they have 10 children and one nephew has another on the way. I am so ashamed of the two younger ones because they promised these girls they would be there for them and as soon as the babies were born the boys were gone. I tried my best to warn there girls what might happen if they got pregnant but they just knew my nephews would take care of them. Not so. And I truly am ashamed of those boys.  

[Chima7]

There is nothing evil about speaking the truth using facts. The facts are that you need to learn to write, which was made very clear in your last unintelligible post, and that you're not mature nor financially ready to accept the lifelong responsibility of motherhood. We are not making this up. These are the facts based on what you yourself wrote on here. You can't argue facts when the evidence speaks for itself in your own posts.

[remar]

No one is being evil to you. We are mothers ourselves and we know exactly what it takes to raise children. We want to be realistic about wanting a baby. I seen you say several times, it's what I want. You have to think about that child and it's future. Every child deserves the best life parents can possibly give it. Your odds are so much better when you are established in life as for as your education, your relationship, money and maturity. The comments you've made do not sound mature. If you're getting so mad at us for telling you the truth how are you going to handle a screaming baby that will not quit for hours at a time?

[minniy]

Thnaks 2 carlee nose how I feel thnaks babes xx

[minniy]

Who the **** r ye ta say **** bout me r my bf and who's saying I'm on durngs that's year slefs ? So that's four being evll 2 me four noting when all I want is a baby hopefully god can see what ye r saying because its hurt me tbh thanks anyways bye nw

[Chima7]

I urge you not to drop out of high school. With your very poor writing skills, it will be extremely difficult to get anywhere in life. No one will ever hire you for any kind of job, even as a hairdresser, with such terrible writing ability.

[EllaMari]

Your heart feels broken because you're young and driven by emotions. Sweerheart, you can hardly spell. I don't think getting some additional education is going to hurt you. The chances of you and your bf staying together is less than 10%. He is a land scaper? Great, he has seasonal employment that barely puts him as a single person above poverty line. You need to finish school as a hair dresser and then think about being 8 months pregnant standing on your feet all day. You won't get maternity leave as a hair dresser, so you will lose an income. Best case scenario, you and your bf make enough to live paycheck to paycheck. Best case. Both of your jobs are prone to layoffs and neither provides health insurance. Know what is more dangerous to a child than a mother using crack while pregnant? Poverty. Google crack vs poverty, I'm not making it up. And the chances of you living in poverty is REALLY GOOD as an unwed, potentially uneducated (if you don't finish high school) teen mom. Babies don't stay and not all are born healthy. You need to be emotionally and financially ready for a child who may have physical, learning, or emotional problems. I worked with children for most of my life and they can be very frustrating, especially when you are tired and broke.  God is telling you now is not the time. Focus on yourself you have 10+ years to have a baby.

[remar]

The above posters are giving you great advice. They are truly trying to help you. You have no idea how hard it is to take care of a baby. The most important thing is that baby and not what you want right now. They give you no love because they are a baby. They need your complete attention and care every single minute of the day. And I can tell you from experience they are so very expensive. Why not finish your training first, get married, buy a home, have money in the bank and then have a baby?

[minniy]

Lisan I iv got everfingk sortid I'm a tranie hair dresser and my bf is a lade scaper we ern mony I'm not ascing for u to tell me eney of dat see I no all of dat all redy all I want to no tips dats it

[Chima7]

How are you going to pay for it? Do you and your boyfriend have jobs? Do you have health insurance? Have you graduated high school yet? Where are you going to live with the baby? How are you going to afford diapers, formula, clothes, baby furniture, toys, doctor appointments, medicine, vaccines, the list goes on. I'm in my late 30s with a good paying job and even I don't feel like I can afford a kid right now. So then how are you, who is just a kid yourself, going to afford it?

[minniy]

So wot do you fingk I shood do the best fing to get pregnant pliz I just need to no my hart is brock over the uther to and why wood I want to go to partys and have a good tome wen I cood be pooting all my love and time into a baby dats wots lifes abwt so as eney 1 got eny advis for me

[EllaMari]

I've heard of many women who couldn't get pregnant with a certain partner or because - they believe - because deep down they knew it was not the right time. Take time to focus on you and creating a full, exciting life without a baby. You're 17, you've got time! Travel, move somewhere new, finish school, work as a nanny, have your 21st birthday, make bad decisions, party a little, get established, get a good car & job/career, then have a kid. I know when your heart wants that baby you want the best for them. As a 17 year old you just can't do that.  It will happen,  just listen to your body and wait.

[Carly1306]

Semen coming back out is completely normal. It's not all semen, it's also your own body secretions in there too. When he ejaculates in your, semen gets to where it needs to and the rest just comes back out - gravity!

All you can do is have sex every other day leading to ovulation, and again for a few days after. Have doctors said why they think you are miscarrying?