THANK YOU guys! I was really getting to feel a bit "needy" until I read all these replies. I am certain that you are right in that I should get as much rest as possible and avoid the "need to entertain" people. LOL I do that too!
However, I plan to lock myself away in my bedroom and to be honest, if I am tired or hurting I will not hesitate to tell my family to tell visitors I am resting. Am I bad or what??
Last spring when I had the stomach flu we had some people stop by... I was literally DYING in the bedroom, they are all out there chatting away, I proceeded to get up, SLAM the door shut and let them know I was TRY*ING to rest! Think I'll try to be a bit nicer this time but hey, a woman's gotta do what a woman's gotta do, right? LOL Hopefully I won't be feeling THAT sick this time around!
Thanks again!
Darla
People want to help and you need to let them. I had an overabundance of help too. Many times, people don't know wha tto say and this is their way of expressing their emotions by doing. You would do the same thing for a friend or family member. I had to realize that.
Wow - that's me!! I DO feel the need to entertain too!! I swear to you, I haven't had many quiet moments since surgery last week. Between the phone ringing (jeez....no wonder I have no voice!), and people stopping over, I haven't had time to even watch a full movie!!! I just want to SLEEP! But, I am thankful to have so many people that care about me, and my mom has been a lifesaver. I'm glad she lives close!!
I would take the help...unless you think all those people coming in and out all the time will drive you nuts....OR if your one of those people that think you have to "entertain" people who are in your house then you might not get as much rest as you think
At the very least I would take the offer for the dinners. Like Kipland I was only intrested in eating soft foods or liquids but the family wanted REAL food. Im the only one in the house that knows how to cook so I had to make my food AND theirs........at times they could have starved and I wouldnt have cared. :-)
Ditto! - take the help while you can get it.
You must be a special person to have so many offers of help, you can always do something special for them later when you're feeling better.
teresa
Say YES!!!!!!!! You will get the rest you need and they will feel so happy to help you because they care about you. Everybody wins :-D
I agree with Venora. Take all the help you can get. I am a little over a week post surgery and feel pretty darned good. I've been cooking and doing pretty normal things, although I tend to get worn out really easy. The first few days, I wouldn't have wanted to cook at all. Thank goodness I had a lot of help as well!
Before I went in, I made sure I had a lot of "soft" stuff around the house. Popsicles, jello, pudding, soup, etc. I'm glad I did, because of the difficulties I had with swallowing afterwards. Your throat will probably be sore, so be sure to have some of those soothing goodies on hand.
Lori
Honey take the help. You need to be able to really take it easy and rest and heal after your surgery.Many of us set our recovery time back by trying to do too much too soon.Especially the dinner offers. you wont feel much like cooking. Take good care of yourself.
Love Venora