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[missm55]

My husband and I are TTC and  have been for the past few months. Every time I get a negative test I am sad (i'm sure you can relate). It seems like everywhere I go I hear about so-and-so and how they are pregnant... I'm happy for them but just wonder when it will be my turn. I'm trying to keep it together and just need support and an outlet so that i don't keep it all in or dump my emotions on my DH. So any encouragement that you could offer would be very much appreciated. Thanks :)

[missm55]

thanks so much for the encouragement! I will do my best. it's nice to have women to talk to during this exciting (and frustrating) time :0)

[wantinajellybean]

I know its hard to stay positive and I have only been trying since September. I cry every time I get a BFN, but then I know that one day, I will have two lines instead of one.  It's hard when everyone around you has kids or is pregnant, and you think why not me?  I think its normal to get that way when you want something sooo bad. I am one of the most patient people in the world, but not when it comes to this..lol.   It will happen though!  Gillian is right about taking it easy and keeping your relationship fun, I had to learn that early on that too much baby, baby, baby, can drive a man a little crazy when thats all I would talk about.  So, now we are back on track, and keeping everything fun and relaxed.

I wish you the best of luck!

[gillianl]

i know how you feel i've been ttc for the past 31 months with no joy and along the way my sister has had a son, my cousin a daughter and is now pregnant with her second, both aunts were pregnant and a lot of friends i always feel when is it my turn.

At the start of ttc i never stopped testing it got so bad i was crying and having mood swings with my partner because the BFP wasn't showing, now though i'm taking everything a lot easier and calmer because i have been so used to seeing a BFN i just think the BFP will happen when it happens.

In all honesty don't make ttc a chore you and your partner will both get fed up and arguments may start for no reason, keep it fun.  A normal healthy couple takes 1-2 years to conceive so if you haven't conceived in the 2 year period i would then see a consultant with regards to fertility treatment.

I've been for all my tests as has my partner and they have all been clear, the only one i hated was the HSG it actually put me off wanting to try for a baby for a little while because of the pain i also don't know if my right side is blocked as i didn't let the doc finish the test.

Take things easy, keep the fun in your relationship and it will happen i wish you all the luck in the world and hope you get your BFP soon, just remeber a BFN means you get to keep ttc!!!