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Parents forcing abortion
So I'm 23yrs and 14 weeks pregnant. I'm not married so my parents are forcing me to get an abortion. My boyfriend and I want to keep it so bad and I keep telling them I'm keeping it. They are still angry and I keep getting insults and threats from my mother. This stresses me put and depresses me. Is it not dangerous to have an abortion at 14 weeks? I need advise. If I should just pack up and leave home or stay here and try to ignore them.
That sounds like the answer. You and your boyfriend get married. That way you will have a home of your own and be able to keep the baby.
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Would they be more supportive if you and your boyfriend had a quiet ceremony to marry?
I live in Ghana, Africa. Most girls are not allowed to move out into their own home when they are not married. My parents are being very selfish the only thing they talk about is how much of a disgrace it is to them without considering what I feel. I want this baby and my boyfriend and I have jobs so taking care of the baby wouldn't be a problem. It's just depressing knowing I don't have my parents blessing and support.
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Hi there. I'm so sorry this is a stressful time for you! Sounds like a really hard and frustrating situation. Probably a lot to deal with.
To answer the question regarding 14 weeks, this is something that does occur. It is typically still done the traditional way vaginally at 14 weeks. There should be no repercussions on your health at this point. If the pregnancy continues much further, the procedure is more involved and hopefully your parents have the wisdom (should you do as they wish) to take you to some place that is safe and sanitary. Surgical abortions can be done up to 20 weeks (and beyond if there is a medical reason).
I'm not sure what your options are. I'm not sure what power your parents have over you. If you were to keep the baby, is that something you can feasibly do? Can you support this child on your own? Are you willing to give up your parents? Would there be any repercussions socially or legally for not following their wishes?
There is a cultural difference between where you live and where most of the posters that have commented live. In the US, choice is common and the dynamics are a bit different than in your country. So, you must factor that in. it's easy for us to say 'don't do it' but the situation very well could be something that we don't understand.
Some do find abortion to be a good choice because it allows you to go on with your life and then choose to have a family of your own at a time that is better for you. A time where your family will support you in starting a family.
So, it would help to know what the situation is with your parents in terms of control over you and what the repercussions are if you do not follow their wishes.
To answer the question regarding 14 weeks, this is something that does occur. It is typically still done the traditional way vaginally at 14 weeks. There should be no repercussions on your health at this point. If the pregnancy continues much further, the procedure is more involved and hopefully your parents have the wisdom (should you do as they wish) to take you to some place that is safe and sanitary. Surgical abortions can be done up to 20 weeks (and beyond if there is a medical reason).
I'm not sure what your options are. I'm not sure what power your parents have over you. If you were to keep the baby, is that something you can feasibly do? Can you support this child on your own? Are you willing to give up your parents? Would there be any repercussions socially or legally for not following their wishes?
There is a cultural difference between where you live and where most of the posters that have commented live. In the US, choice is common and the dynamics are a bit different than in your country. So, you must factor that in. it's easy for us to say 'don't do it' but the situation very well could be something that we don't understand.
Some do find abortion to be a good choice because it allows you to go on with your life and then choose to have a family of your own at a time that is better for you. A time where your family will support you in starting a family.
So, it would help to know what the situation is with your parents in terms of control over you and what the repercussions are if you do not follow their wishes.
You can't please everybody, you're old enough to make that decision yourself. If you do something to please somebody else then you'll deeply regret it later and you'll have to live with that .Giving life is a blessing from God and if you feel you want to keep your unborn child then you do just that .Don't let someone determine YOUR decision not even your parents . Good luck and keep your head up stress isn't good.
Even if you were 16 your parents still cannot force you to get an abortion.
When I was 16 my mom planned to have me do an abortion so I did what I had to do I packed up and left towards the end of the pregnancy she told me she has families lined up to adopt my daugther stop speaking to her till my daugther was a few months old now she loves and and they are unceprerable
I was forced into an abortion when I was 14 by my mum I'm sort of glad now that I did have the abortion because I just wasn't ready at all and the guy didn't want anything to do with baby, but it took me forever to get over it and still to this day I think about the baby I could have had and it still hurts me. I would say that if you are dead set on keeping the baby then you should move out and ignore your parents for a while. They may only be looking out for you but they're going the wrong way about it and no body can force you into doing something you font want to do and whether you have an abortion or not both will change your life, it's your body no one else's so ultimately it's you who calls the shots and it is entirely up to you what you want to do. Me personally I wouldn't abort after 12 weeks pregnant but that's just my personal opinion, I'm not sure whether it's dangerous or not but I don't think it is. Good luck
Nobody can force anyone into an abortion. Dr's will never perform that kind of procedure without your consent. Also, you are 23. You're a fully grown woman. Stand upto your parents and tell them that they are trying to force you to kill their grandchild. Because at 14w the baby is almost fully formed and looks completely human. Maybe it is time you left home and got your own place. You will probably want your own place once the baby comes anyway
Do not let them pressure you into getting an abortion if you don't want to. You will regret forever, its not their decision. I would move out....
No one can make you get an abortion, you have to sign a form of consent not your parents. If your want to keep the baby girl then you keep the baby. Being a Mom is not easy and not having support makes it even more difficult but there are plenty of programs out there for cash assistance that help moms. Don't ever feel like you don't have an option. It's your right to keep the baby. I say don't allow yourself to be around that any longer. Stress is not good for baby. I would leave. Move out with your boyfriend. Apply for medicaid and wic and do what you know is right and your decision and protect that baby!! You go girl!
You're 23 years old, your parents can literally not force you to do anything. I would leave, you don't need that negative stuff in your life! You're an adult, I can't believe they'd even say that. And good on you for wanting to keep your baby, you guys got this!
You are grown enough to make your own decisions I don't think you should just because they say so! You are 23 years old and you can decide for your self keep the baby..
Your 23 do what you want to do. Dont let them make any decisions for you
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