I seriously need help...PLEASE read

[Valery15]

I am 15 years old and pregnant and I just officially found out yesterday. I keep going through phases of me liking the thought of a baby and others wanting me to get an abortion. I know other posts I put on here I said I wouldn't even think about abortion and I feel bad for even saying it. I just want to live my life as a teenager but I know this is kind of what I deserve for making a stupid decision.
And now that I think about it, I can barely take care of myself so I dont think I am ready for a child. I have severe depression
and anxiety and i have self harmed in the past and a suicide attempt and I am worried that if my family and people at school will judge me and random people otherwise and my depression could get alot worse than it already is. I could lose the only friends I have, and I dont have much friends at all, so I will have no one during my pregnancy. My babys father isnt even with me anymore, and he said himself he wont take care of a baby. But hes the one that kept pushing it ! Im extremely worried and scared and I have a different mindset than I did a week ago. Please help me

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Welcome to the woman's choice forum.  This forum is for a woman to sort out her options or to discuss the option she has chosen.  

Basically, it is three options and a woman must pick what is best for her.  No one else is there to carry the baby through a pregnancy for you or to care for the baby after it is born, so it is totally a woman's right to choose what is best for HER.

your options are first abortion.  this can be a great option for a woman that is not in a position to care for a child and who doesn't want to go through a pregnancy and a birth.  The procedure is simple and not expensive.  Women are generally very happy when they've chosen this decision because their life goes back to normal and they can make a better decision regarding sex/ protection in the future.  

Adoption is another option.  This can be a wonderful option as well.  A woman does not have her life turned upside down by having a baby to care for while at the same time, a couple who can't have a child gets that gift.  Can be a real win win.  However, a woman does have to carry the baby to term which can be difficult for a variety of reasons.  

The last option is to keep the baby which is often super hard when you are young and unprepared.  I found motherhood difficult as an adult with a successful career, a husband and we were TRYING for the baby.  It's just hard work.  It's also awesome.  But to do the proper job of parenting, a woman needs to have a full plan on how she will go about that and stay focused on being a good mama and getting a strong education so as not to always be dependent on other people.  

So, we are here to support you and we are happy to help with any option you go with.  peace

[MissDaisDee]

I've had the same problems. I'm 15 and 28 weeks pregnant with my first child. I use to self harm. I use to be clinically depressed. I still have anxiety. It's hard to deal with that especially with the way people like to say rude things and judge others so much. When I found out I cried because I was lost and scared and alone. It's going to be hard and it has been. I went from not wanting my baby to wanting and to not wanting to be here anymore. That all changed and at the end of the day the life in my stomach is more precious than anything I could have ever asked for. I'm having a baby girl in September and I couldn't be happier with my choice. It was hard the first couple months, but now I feel her move around in my stomach and I talk and sing to her everyday. I really hope you choose to keep the beautiful little baby growing inside your stomach because you might at one point regret an abortion. Once you get to hold your little miracle you'll experience a love you never thought possible. The love that only a mother could understand. If you ever need anyone to talk to you can message me whenever. I know exactly what you're going through and it will get better.

[remar]

I'll be completely honest with you. Your depression and anxiety could get even worse because of hormones. Once the baby gets here it will be a 24/7 job. Babies are very demanding, because they are babies and need to be fed, held, changed, bathed. Many only sleep 2 to 3 hours at a time if you're lucky.
We have a woman's choice forum here if you would also like to post there. I understand this is a very hard choice for you but you have to be realistic about all of your options. How will you support a baby, how will you finish school, what if your depression and anxiety gets worse, who will watch the baby if you need some alone time? I'm not trying to tell you what you should or should not do. Having a baby is the biggest thing you will ever do in your life because it completely changes your life.
We're here to help in any way we can.  

[hopeandlittleone]

I agree and I hope whatever u pick is going to make u happy :) everything happens for a reason

[Valery15]

Ive only had sex once, and I dont plan to do it again anytime soon. And ive thought about adoption too but if I go through my pregnancy I might as well keep my baby

[hopeandlittleone]

Don't wanna sound like a B word but don't be having sex BBC now u have another life in your hands that is at your mercy its not impossable to be a mommy at 15 just make absolutely sure this is what is best BBC theres adoptionas an option